Love Tips

Who do you ask for love tips? Most of us have a friend or confidant who we rely on for love tips when we think we are falling in love or are having problems with our relationship. The person on who we rely for love tips may have more influence over us that we think.

For example, if you are looking for love tips from a friend who has been single for a relatively long period of time, they may be more inclined to give you advice based upon their own experience. Their tips will be different than a friend who is in a rocky relationship.

Most of us do not want to hear love tips. We want to hear that we are doing everything the right way and seek out friends and companions who will tell us what we want to hear. A true friend, however, can tell you something that you do not want to hear and be a friend. If you are dating a person for a long period of time and he or she suddenly starts acting funny, you may ask your friend.

Someone with a more jaded view of relationships may be more critical of your boyfriend or girlfriend as well as their behavior. Their love tips may include doing something that will destroy the relationship. Since your friend does not put relationships in such high regard, it is not uncommon that he or she would want to ruin yours. This is not done in a mean spirited way, but out of friendship. This friend on whom you are relying for tips honestly feels that relationships are doomed because of their own experience.

If, however, you seek love tips from someone who is in a very good relationship, then you have a better chance of getting love tips that will save your own relationship. The person in a good relationship will most likely give you advice that is also based upon his or her experience.

A third part who is completely neutral, such as a counselor, can give good love tips. Many couples enter counseling so that they can get them from the counselor. Again, the beliefs of the counselor will greatly influence his or her love tips. If you are going through a bad marriage and talk to counselor who is totally against divorce, you are going to get different advice than from someone who feels casual about divorce.

In order to get the best love tips, you are best to get them from someone whose lifestyle and relationship style you hope to emulate. This way, when you ask for advice, they will give you advice based upon experience that you wish to match. You are better off not to seek advice from someone who has a history of bad relationships as they are not likely to give you information that will enable your relationship work. We often seek out people for love tips who will tell us what we want to hear.

By Emma-Louise Smith