Successful Relationships

A young friend of mine who was madly in love with his girl friend, suddenly finds it more convenient to live an isolated life. This is the same person who would make an extra effort to ensure that everyone just lends his ear to listen how excited the couple was? Why do the relationships have just begin to behave as "Fast Foods". The moment you gulp it down you forget its taste. Are we living in the age of instant relationships like the instant food. Do the both (food and relations) have something in common. I tried to find out and the reasons I got were amazingly similar.

The male before marriage starts to project himself as a fairytale prince and the female as princess. He suddenly wakes up one fine morning to realize that whatever he had painted was an illusion without any reality. He can no longer behave in the same way to the same person every time they meet.Like food how long can you relish one dish for ever? A change is always desired when it comes to food. But there is a basic difference between food and relations. Food can be imaginary but not the relation. The difference is that of a real and virtual image.Reality is quite different from the illusionary world. So what goes wrong and where in respect to relationships? I feel I have the answer to this most sought after Question.
The basic reason I feel is the beginning of the relationship on a wrong note. We begin it with impractical attributes. Don't we realize that when we pamper a woman beyond practical attributes we are digging a grave for the relationships future. The relationships should begin on solid foundations where the male and female talk it out. It doesn't mean one should get rid of the romantic inclinations of relationships.They have there own role in the association. However, keeping it within practical limits is more desirable. It will be long lasting relationship based on the principle of mutual self respect, love and admiration.Don't take it to limits or heights which you won't be able to reach easily.

Here are some of the other things that needs to be adhered to make the relationship between male and female long lasting and mutually satisfying.

1- Be Practical however respectful towards each other.
2- Talk about all your plans and how you wish to achieve them
3- How are you going to meet your economic requirements
4- What do you expect of your partner and what your partner expects of you. Talk it out or find out.
5- Are you compatible to each other
6- Women should not expect the male to be romantic all the time. Don't expect that he would pamper her similarly all the time.
7- Make sure that both have to contribute in meeting the domestic requirements, rearing kids,building home,securing family future is a combined responsibility.
8- Never keep breathing down the throat of your partner. Giving space to each other is healthy.
9- Make savings an habit.It will add to your domestic bliss.
10- Remember now you have two sets of parents. Respect them and help them feel involved in your relationship to the extent they don't cross their limits.

I am sure, if we follow these little suggestions, we can actually lead a happy and prosperous life. The domestic bliss would contribute towards the better growth of your children. This can really be achieved provided we are willing to follow above points. Like all good things it too, comes with a price. Are we willing to pay the price is a Million Dollar Question?

By Bakshinder Singh