The Rules Of Online Dating

Dating Websites - Helping You Find Your Dream Date on the Internet

2010-11-23T21:17:00.000-08:00

We humans have been using the Internet for so many purposes of late, such as to find jobs, homes, automobiles and for others like this, but perhaps no one could have guessed that we would be using it to find love even a decade back. However, with the presence of Dating Websites, the Internet has made this possible too and it has become really easy as well. Today, you will come across many web pages online and there are many people who have become interested in finding a date on the Web. There is a dating site for almost everyone - Europeans, Jews, Asians, Hispanics, Blacks, and there are those that are meant just for gays and lesbians as well. And some web pages are targeted towards married couples. Most of these websites are doing very well too. There are some Dating Websites that target more specialized groups, such as those who are interested in 'sex dating' or 'plus size dating'.

If we try to analyze why a dating site have become so successful, we can conclude that the reasons are quite simple. Ever since Adam and Eve chose to take a bite of that forbidden fruit, men and women have eternally wanted each other's company for intimacy, love, sex and procreation. The Internet of course has made everything much easier and with this, so the popularity of these websites has also soared.

Although there are many Dating Websites that ask for membership from intending users, before they can actually view the profiles of the members and make contact with them, there are those that let you do a bit more, before you pay. There are some that will even let you send free 'winks' or 'sparks' to a person who interests you. However a vast majority of people at these places are not actually paid members - only about 20% of all visitors end up paying.

Why Use These Websites For Dating?

The number one reason is that you can finally find that date on the Internet and the other person is also looking for a date. This of course is great news for you. All of us have faced situations where we became interested in someone only to know later that the person was already engaged, or worse, already married. When you are looking forward to relationships, you should be online because here, you can choose someone who may come from anywhere on planet Earth. Thus, there are no reasons why geographical boundaries should work as limitations.

Another big advantage is that you are who decides how much information you want to divulge when you are introducing yourself to someone you hardly know. There are many who like to keep themselves anonymous till the time they become confident enough to reveal their identity.

There are some kinds of people who are not comfortable in one-to-one interactions and they naturally love this medium. There are many who also feel that this medium is much safer because they do not now have to meet someone and go out on a date, when there is hardly enough information about him or her.

There are actually many people who have met through the websites for dating that ultimately flower into relationships. In other cases, people who are divorced have also been able to find a partner and find company at these Dating Websites.

By Abraham Salas

100% Free Online Dating - Find Your Soulmate Online Absolutely Free

2010-11-23T21:16:00.001-08:00

Finding your soul mate online is the best thing which can happen to you. Well luckily, there are numerous online dating websites which offer free online dating services, where you can create a profile and find your soul mate online. These dating websites offer many services and features; some of these features are helpful while others may not be of much help. So it is essential that you look for the website, which provides you with the maximum features that you want. You can read about my personal story at the end of this article to learn more if the following steps are not enough for you to start free online dating.

1) There are many free online dating services which are legitimate and fun. You can even find your soul mate on these web sites, if you have the proper skills and tools to seduce that specific person.

2) If you have sent messages to the person and he/she still not responding, then find out why is it so, or move on to someone else.

3) You must have searched for the singles when you came to the website. Go to the search page again and search under the same criteria again and find if there is someone new there.

4) Go and find yourself a new person, the key to success is to try again and again, and if you have bad luck once, it doesn't mean online dating doesn't work.

5) If you're not getting proper responses, then see if your profile is made properly, because if there's something offensive in there that might be the problem, that's why you're not getting proper responses to your messages. Make your profile as friendly and open as possible, so that you can attract more and more people, so you can have a better chance at finding your soul mate.

These free online dating services are the best way to find your soul mate, but with the help of the right type of dating website you can find the right person you were looking for.

By Chase Baker

Fix an Unhappy Relationship - 3 Things to Do Today!

2010-10-28T22:34:00.000-07:00

So many couples feel trapped in a relationship because of economic circumstances. Some are hesitant to start out on their own again because it will break up a family. Those considerations are certainly valid. If you feel trapped and need some advice on what to do some of these suggestions might come in handy:

1. If you are unhappy in a relationship things have got to change.

This one is a no brainer. Unfortunately, many couples get into a rut because they don't know any better. Sometimes, it's more comfortable to live with the status quo than to "stir things up". A famous quote that you may have heard goes like this: "insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results".

Your choices really boil down to this: "Am I willing to live with the situation the way it is now for the sake of _____________ (you fill in the blank)? Most of us don't realize how miserable other people around us are when we are miserable ourselves! Staying in a bad situation day in and day out eventually wears you down. Sometimes you just have to make the best of it and go on though. If that is your decision go on to # 2 below.

2. Relationship commitment-you have got to have it to stay together.

Often times, couples will make a half hearted attempt to salvage things. They are up one day and down the next. Anything less than being totally committed to reconciliation is doomed to failure. Your partner has to be just as committed as you are. If they have thrown in the towel before you even begin then your efforts will probably be in vain. Sometimes, it is wise to let your partner talk to a counselor, a trusted friend or family members on their own. If you have been talking to them until "you are blue in the face" it might be time to let someone else try to reason with them. It might be worthwhile to write down the things you need to work on together as a couple and look at it every so often. We tend to forget things and get busy. Keep this at the top of your priority list by reviewing your list frequently.

3. Unhappy relationships just have to end sometimes.

That's just the reality. Breakup up should be avoided at all costs. Sometimes, you have done everything you could. There is no shame in that. One word of caution: make sure you consider the pros and cons of leaving before you actually do it. So many times people get fed up and just say "I'm out of here" without REALLY thinking about the consequences. The emotional toll that this exacts on everyone is not to be under estimated. Remember that other people are going to suffer too if this is the route you decide to take.

If your church has a support group or a recovery group take advantage of it. A therapist or coach can be extremely expensive. In the end, if you can save your relationship it is money well spent. It's a start though if you are "unhappy in my relationship". Last but not least, take a breather from each other and collect your thoughts if you need to. Go hang out in the mountains for a few days or pitch a tent next to the beach and listen to the surf. It's amazing how much nature can solve the weighty problems that we all have in this life.

By Janice L. Anderson

Dating Tips For Guys - Want to Get a Woman's Attention?

2010-10-28T22:32:00.000-07:00

Sometimes, the things that a guy will do to try and get the attention of a woman is almost laughable. You have probably seen other guys or maybe even been guilty yourself of doing some ridiculous things to try and get a woman's attention. Well, unless you want to look like a fool, then you have to learn how to get a woman's attention the right way. But, what is the right way to get a woman to notice YOU?

Here are a couple of tips to get a woman's attention:

1. Don't try and show off. While the urge might be there to try and do as much as possible to attract her attention, you don't want to be guilty of showing off. More often than not, a guy will turn off a woman by trying to show off to her. Instead of blatantly trying to impress her, you want to be impressive to a woman by learning how to be subtle around her.

2. Don't try too hard to get her attention. When you try too hard to get a woman to notice you, it's not going to make the kind of lasting impression that you would want. You have to be able to have confidence in yourself and not go all out just to get a woman's attention.

3. Impress her by knowing how to talk to women. Being able to hold a conversation that keeps her attention is actually quite impressive, as most guys will lose the woman in the first few minutes. Just be sure that you are having a real interaction and you are not taking up all of the time talking.

By Chris Tyler

The Rules of a Blind Date

2010-10-26T19:57:00.001-07:00

Anybody can fall in love after seeing a photo on the Internet. Today many people use the Internet to meet other singles. If you want a date with somebody you've meet online, there are some issues you need to know about:

1. Be careful

Before the date try to find out as much as you can about the person, don't trust anybody. It is true you spend hours in the chat room, but this does not mean you know the person. Ask questions like age, job, don't be interested in details like how many relationships the person had, his/her parents' jobs, his/her marks at exams, etc. Be interested only in important aspects.

2. Talk to him/her on the phone

A simple conversation will tell you many things about a potential partner. You can find out details about his/her sense of humor or state of mind.

3. Choose a good location for the blind date

If he/she has already chosen a place that you don't like, say this and choose another place that offers security. A public place is the best location.

4. Don't ask him/her to come to your place

Go directly to the place you choose to meet. Maybe you will not like the person; in this case it is better that he/she will not know your home address.

5. Avoid alcohol

Nobody says you can't drink a glass of wine or two, but don't exaggerate. First of all, you may not make a good impression drinking too much and it's better to stay alert. For the first date you should order soft drinks.

6. Even if you don't like him/her, avoid showing it

You don't want this person to be embarrassed. If you feel he/she is not what you want, say you can be friends.

Anyway, be very attentive to choose the right person for you. Date a person that has the same hobbies as you or at least something in common with you.

By Marius Gherghinescu

The Dating Tip That Will Put Your Dating Success on Auto-Pilot

2010-10-26T02:01:00.001-07:00

A lot of people tell me that all my fancy "quick fix" dating advice works - but feels a little fake, since it all comes down to who you really are.

My take is that who you are is your car, and how good you are at dating is how good you drive.

You could come in first in a bad car, if you were the best driver in the world.

You could also come in first if you were the worst driver in the world, in the best car in the world.

But one thing is sure - you would come in first if you had the best car in the world, and was the best driver in the world.

My point is that you should both learn about attraction, become as smooth as James Bond, and learn that super fancy opener that will make her attracted to you right from the beginning, but you should also go work on yourself - upgrade yourself.

If you became the best version of yourself in every possible way - the woman or man of your dreams would probably come to you.

The areas of which you should improve are:

- Your physical appearance (you may not be Brad Pitt, but buy some nice clothing, take care of your grooming and work out)

- Your economy (it's a fact - life is easier when you have your economy handled. Give your best at work and get that raise, start your own company, get out of debt or start spending with your brain turned on)

- Your education (we all like educated people - as long as their education is used in a sexy, interesting and good way)

- Your personal development (self-confidence, self-esteem, inner peace)

- Family (you should love your mother)

- Relationships (how good are you at being in a relationship)

- Sex (how good are you in bed?)

- Career/work (do you do what you love every day?)

- Spare time (do you have fascinating hobbies, or do you chill on the couch with a pizza every day?)

Try to rate yourself on 1-10 on all of the areas.

Where could you improve?

If you could honestly say 10 in all of them, you would be able to point at every man or woman as your new significant other. That's for sure.

By Jonas Cronfeld

How to Make a Woman Fall in Love - Tips to Get Her Hooked on You

2010-10-05T21:09:00.001-07:00

If you want to make a woman fall in love, then you probably want to know what you can do to make a woman feel like she is hooked on you. When a woman feels like she is in love with a man, she thinks about him all of the time. When she is talking to her friends, when she is at work, and when she is sitting at home, her thoughts all turn to the guy that makes her feel this way. If this is how you want to make a woman feel about you, then you will definitely want to keep reading.

A lot of guys just do not realize that to make a woman fall in love is not rocket science, it's not for some guys and not others. Any man can learn what it takes to make a woman fall in love, and when you do, then you have a skill that can help you to attract any woman you desire.

Here are some tips that you can use to make a woman feel like she is HOOKED on YOU:

1. Use your eyes to communicate attraction with her. While some people will assume that words are what will make a woman fall for you, the eyes are an effective way of building attraction. Of course, this is not just any attraction, but the intense kind that reminds a woman what it is like to feel love at first sight. The eyes are a way to communicate on a deeper level than words ever could.

2. Make her feel like she has to win YOUR approval. Many times when guys fall for a girl, they immediately take a stance where they have to win HER approval. You have to turn those tables around and make her feel like she has to win over you, and appeal to your desire and affection. This will make her start to think about you with increasing amounts, and of course, that will make her feel attracted to you.

3. To seal the deal and make her fall in love, you have to make her feel like there is no other man for her. This is where you have to let your personality shine and become magnetic to her. When a woman feels like the guy she is with is the only man that she would ever want to be with, then she is definitely going to be hooked on him. You can be that guy when you let her see that YOU are the man for her.

By Chris Tyler

Successful Relationships

2010-10-05T21:05:00.001-07:00

A young friend of mine who was madly in love with his girl friend, suddenly finds it more convenient to live an isolated life. This is the same person who would make an extra effort to ensure that everyone just lends his ear to listen how excited the couple was? Why do the relationships have just begin to behave as "Fast Foods". The moment you gulp it down you forget its taste. Are we living in the age of instant relationships like the instant food. Do the both (food and relations) have something in common. I tried to find out and the reasons I got were amazingly similar.

The male before marriage starts to project himself as a fairytale prince and the female as princess. He suddenly wakes up one fine morning to realize that whatever he had painted was an illusion without any reality. He can no longer behave in the same way to the same person every time they meet.Like food how long can you relish one dish for ever? A change is always desired when it comes to food. But there is a basic difference between food and relations. Food can be imaginary but not the relation. The difference is that of a real and virtual image.Reality is quite different from the illusionary world. So what goes wrong and where in respect to relationships? I feel I have the answer to this most sought after Question.
The basic reason I feel is the beginning of the relationship on a wrong note. We begin it with impractical attributes. Don't we realize that when we pamper a woman beyond practical attributes we are digging a grave for the relationships future. The relationships should begin on solid foundations where the male and female talk it out. It doesn't mean one should get rid of the romantic inclinations of relationships.They have there own role in the association. However, keeping it within practical limits is more desirable. It will be long lasting relationship based on the principle of mutual self respect, love and admiration.Don't take it to limits or heights which you won't be able to reach easily.

Here are some of the other things that needs to be adhered to make the relationship between male and female long lasting and mutually satisfying.

1- Be Practical however respectful towards each other.
2- Talk about all your plans and how you wish to achieve them
3- How are you going to meet your economic requirements
4- What do you expect of your partner and what your partner expects of you. Talk it out or find out.
5- Are you compatible to each other
6- Women should not expect the male to be romantic all the time. Don't expect that he would pamper her similarly all the time.
7- Make sure that both have to contribute in meeting the domestic requirements, rearing kids,building home,securing family future is a combined responsibility.
8- Never keep breathing down the throat of your partner. Giving space to each other is healthy.
9- Make savings an habit.It will add to your domestic bliss.
10- Remember now you have two sets of parents. Respect them and help them feel involved in your relationship to the extent they don't cross their limits.

I am sure, if we follow these little suggestions, we can actually lead a happy and prosperous life. The domestic bliss would contribute towards the better growth of your children. This can really be achieved provided we are willing to follow above points. Like all good things it too, comes with a price. Are we willing to pay the price is a Million Dollar Question?

By Bakshinder Singh

Free Online Dating - Is it Really Free?

2010-08-24T20:28:00.001-07:00

There is a saying "You get what you pay for" and while high price doesn't mean high quality anymore, free still means questionable quality. Free online dating is just that, free, and there are a lot of risks involved. There are decent honest people using free online dating services all over the world. At the same time there are scam artists, perverts, and people who lie on every question in their profile using free online dating services. You can get this same mixture of people in the night club that you cruise looking for dates. Your chances of finding the decent people in the world of free online dating are about the same as finding the decent people hanging out in the hot clubs.

First free online dating sites do not screen people. Some ask a lot of detailed questions and then review each profile in hopes of weeding out the bad eggs before they can access their site. Others are simply a worldwide classifieds section. Some may offer a little less risk but neither offer screening. The guy down the street that creeps you out may say he is from Europe and his profile picture may be of a guy on a gondola. The lady at your office that you can't stand may be Miss Perfect profile right down to the long blond hair that doesn't look anything like her in reality. The point is no one from the free online dating site has actually met this person so there is a chance that they are nothing like their profile or picture.
Second online dating sites do not perform background checks. The person may be fairly honest in answering all their questions - from jail. Some people could be using free online dating sites to scam others out of their money and even if they have been previously convicted, they can still be on your online dating site. Some people could be on their trying to collect pictures of others people's children or looking for people with children for perverted reasons. No one is going to know, no one is going to highlight these facts for you because no one at the dating site knows. Background checks are not preformed so you are walking into the situation blind. Granted no one at your local club is performing background checks either so your chances of meeting an unsavory person are about the same between your club and the free online dating site.

The third risk in free online dating sites is that no one is checking ID's. At your local club people are at least checking ID's and only good fakes allow the young ones in. But what about you're online dating site? With no one checking ID's who knows what age that person is. An 80 year old could be reliving their thirties online or a 13 year old could be looking to just mess with members of the site. You have no idea what you are getting into; at least at a club you can see the person and decide their age for yourself.

The potential for identify theft is a fourth risk in free online dating. Most sites that gather your personal information are secure but that won't stop a determined hacker. In addition you run the risk of telling a stranger a lot of information about yourself. While you believe that you are getting closer to this person, they have already started stealing your identity. People that meet online tend to talk about more personal things sooner than they would if they were sitting at the club talking. If free online dating sites had background checks, they could screen out the people who have already been busted for identity theft. This would at least reduce the risk of identity theft a bit.

The fifth risk of free online dating is that no actual person from the dating site has met the members on the site. They don't know who would be a good match for you. They just allow you to browse thousands of profiles for people who may or may not match your personality. Honestly, personality is probably one of the last things you find out about someone you meet in the club but online dating hinges on the ability to personality match with others. At least when your friends set you up on a blind date, it is with someone they have met and believe will be good for you. No one who knows you knows all the other people on a free online dating site. No actually person can recommend someone that they believe would match your personality. When you sign up for a free online dating site, you are flying blind but maybe that brings its own level of excitement for you.

Free online dating sites are a great idea but they are only a little better then going out to the club and hoping to find someone. The vast number of people, real or fake, on free dating sites reaches the thousands. You get to wade blindly through all these profiles hoping to stumble on the one who is a perfect match for you. But even with all these risks and insurmountable odds, people have found their mates in free online dating sites or through a person that they met on a free online dating site.

So where does that leave you? There are other options, for example matchmakers. A matchmaker meets you and every other person that they think may be good for you. They narrow the field down to people that you may actually be interested in based on real information. It's not to say that a good scam artist isn't going to make it onto a matchmakers list, they wouldn't be good if they couldn't. It is just a way to decrease some of the risks that are associated with free online dating and save you time in the mate hunting process.

In the end dating is a game of testing others in hopes to find the one person that fits with you. Unfortunately some people get hurt feelings and other people get taken advantage of during this process. However you find your date, in a free online dating site or from a matchmaker, remember to stay safe and enjoy yourself.

By Allen Tane

Romantic Date Night at Home

2010-08-24T20:26:00.000-07:00

First, set the mood for the evening by setting the table like a five-star restaurant. A tablecloth, your finest china, and lots of candles will help turn your table from every day to fabulous. Floating candles give a beautiful ambiance and are especially appropriate for seafood dinners like lobster. Flowers or petals sprinkled on the table can add an extra dose of extravagance. Your favorite music playing softly in the background will turn your home into a private dining haven.

Then, it's time to prepare the lobster. Bring a pot of water to a high boil. If you like, you can add spices or lemons to the water as well. Make sure your lobster is still alive, for it may not cook properly if it is already dead. Carefully clip the rubber bands off the lobster. Pick up the lobster, using a kitchen towel if you wish, and place head first in the boiling water.

For those of you who are a bit squeamish about killing a lobster, his brain is the size of a grasshopper and is not formulated to feel pain. If you don't mind stepping on a bug, you shouldn't mind killing a lobster. If you do, have your significant other put it in the water.

Cover the lobster and boil for fifteen minutes (for a one to two pound lobster). The lobster shell will turn bright red and the tail will curl when the lobster is done. How can you tell if it is cooked properly? Try tugging off one of the small walking legs. When the lobster is cooked it will come off easily. The meat inside the lobster will be firm, white, and opaque. To be completely sure, use a meat thermometer to measure the internal temperature of the lobster. It should be at 180 degrees.

Lemon butter is delicious with lobsters, however if you are on a diet you can try mixing honey mustard, olive oil, and a little lemon juice for a succulent substitute. To drink with your meal, white wines offset the rich taste of lobster best. You could stop here and have a luxurious dinner, or you can add a simple salad and breadsticks for a truly abundant meal. Knowing that you made a restaurant-quality meal to be enjoyed quietly with your loved one will make your delicious lobster taste even better.

By Bryan Romanow

3 Keys to Successful Dating on Singles Sites

2010-08-10T17:11:00.001-07:00

Let's face it, no one receives solid, effective love relationship advice - whether it's for successful dating or for long lasting marriage. So when you go online and try to meet the right kinds of people on singles sites it can feel like you are more lost than ever.

But you don't need to!

Here are 3 Keys to Successful Dating on Singles Sites

1) Ignore the Dating Games - Tell the Truth

If you are tempted to lie - whether it's about your age, weight, your relationship history, income or anything else - you're voting for your belief that you're not really eligible to look for love with someone really terrific. Instead, you're lying reinforces that you'll accept the attentions of someone who's drawn in by your facade - and then you can only feel even more alone and frustrated. When meeting people online always tell the truth in your profile and in your responses to those people who contact you.

2) Know What Type of Love Partner You're Looking For

When you create your profile, be specific about qualities you're looking for in your love partner - beyond age and height and whether or not they need to live in your geographical area. If spirituality is important say so. If you don't want to have children, say so. If you need to have someone who has never been married before, say so. Whether you're meeting online or off, don't waste your time and energy or anyone else's when there's no possible future between you.

3) Meeting Online and Then Meeting Safely Offline

After you've exchanged numerous emails with someone you find interesting, you'll move on to several extensive phone calls. If you're still interested, you'll want to meet in person. And now you need to practice a few rules of successful dating, which are the rules of smart dating. You'll want to meet in a neutral and public place, like a Starbuck's. No fancy restaurants that can lead to overcharged fantasies. No meeting at either of your homes which could be dangerous. And you'll want to make sure you both pay for your own travel and/or refreshments. That way you focus on meeting each other as separate and mature adults, rather than Prince Charming and Cinderella, in order to determine if you want to continue seeing each other and you don't confuse the get-together with a romantic and/or sexual encounter.

When you follow these 3 keys to successful dating on singles sites, you'll be smart, safe, and successful in keeping yourself grounded and going forward only if you have sincere and conscious reasons to.

By J Sherven

Nervous on a First Date? - Tips For Relaxing

2010-06-07T14:16:00.001-07:00

Do you get nervous on a first date? We all do. The more you like the woman, the more nervous you are.

We tell guys on our radio show all the time that the best way to get over nervousness is control. Self-control, that is.

Have you ever been on a date with a woman that you were not that interested in? Remember how you felt then? You were cool as a cucumber, right? You were cool because you did not care if you ever saw her again.

You have to figure out a way to invoke those kind of feelings in yourself with a woman that you are REALLY interested in.

Here are some more helpful tips on how not to be nervous on a first date.

1. Remember that no matter how much you are attracted to her, she is a STRANGER. She might have "the look" as a late eighties song stated, but that is all you know about her now.

2. Dovetailing on tip 1, that she is in fact a stranger, you do not know what kind of girl you have. Could she be the flexible, nice, giving, highly interested woman with integrity that you seek? Sure. She can just as easily be a structured, hardheaded, mercenary as well. The point is, you just do not know so do not get overly nervous thinking you have finally met the "right one."

3. Even if you have met "the right one" it is still going to take TIME to get to know her. Some guys want to have the ring on her finger just after the appetizer arrives. Remember, it takes approximately 10 dates or 2 months for you to seriously consider her to be your girlfriend and it takes another 2 years to see if you want her to be your wife (after she is your girlfriend). During that whole time we are watching to see if we have that flexible, nice, giving, highly interested woman with integrity.

Bottom line? Guys a lot of times put way too much into a first date. A first date has the sole objective of getting a second date and that is only if the lady laughs at our jokes, pays attention to you, lightly touches you at least 1 time during the date and acts interested in you.

Remember guys, dating is a process and many times that "process" leads to a dead end. Relax, have a good time and keep in mind that she is likely just as nervous as you are on a first date.

By Jeff M. Stevens

Velocity Dating Happens

2010-06-07T14:13:00.000-07:00

Velocity dating happens when folks go to a speed relationship place searching for somebody who could be a superb match for them. This includes a very quick assembly with many different folks and also you see if there's somebody there who you is perhaps appropriate with.

Pace courting is when many men and women sit at tables. A woman and a person will sit at each table for a specified interval of time. It may be two minutes or ten minutes depending on the pace relationship place you're at.

During this period of time, the two will ask every other questions and get to know just a little about each other. They have the opportunity to rapidly get a run down on every person and determine if they're someone they may be concerned about getting to know just a little higher after.

When the time is up then the women or the men will move to the subsequent table and discuss to a different person.

After each of the couples have met and spoke to every other they'll give the numbers of the people or say which people they are interested in. If both folks show an curiosity then they've the chance to communicate and exit together.

During the velocity courting course of while couples are at the desk they might exchange information with each other additionally, in the event that they hit it off proper away.

Velocity dating is not for everybody but some individuals actually like meeting new individuals and finding a date this way. Many individuals like this method as a result of they get to meet the people in particular person and discuss with them moderately than on-line or by happening a blind date.

It is mentioned that if there's chemistry between the 2 folks then it's instantly recognized during a pace dating session.

By Maya Safana

10 Advantages of Online Dating Sites

2010-06-07T14:11:00.001-07:00

Online dating software has made it more easy to create an online dating sites. Online dating sites are one of the most used sites all over the world and people from different ages, caste and geographical regions get involved in any of the sites for dating online. Why do you want to meet people online? Here are 10 reasons:

1. Meet people from around the world - Instead of just dating within your normal 'comfort zone'. Or in your same area. You now have the option to meet, flirt, and date someone from another country if you desire a long distance relationship.

2. Similar interests - With online dating sites you can find people that enjoy your same hobbies and interests. No more roaming the earth lost and alone, here you can find someone to really talk to.

3. Less time - Instead of wasting your time on an awkward date with someone you barely know, you can get to know them through a personal profile or chat option.

4. Less money - Instead of wasting your money on movies and dinner with someone you have nothing in common with, an online networking or friend making site will find another person with your similar interests so the dates actually count and the money is worth spending this time around.

5. Chemistry - Now you can chat before the first date. This will make the overall experience easier, and you feel like you've known each other before

6. Less anxiety - Dating is often a very stressful endeavor. Especially for someone that hasn't had the opportunity in awhile. With online sites for daring, they might feel more comfortable about putting themselves out there again.

7. No time constraint - There is no rush to finding 'love' again. You can search your online dating site whenever you want or whenever you are comfortable. No due dates here.

8. One stop search- online dating sites do the looking for you. All you have to do is sit back, relax, and pick and choose for yourself.

9. Simultaneous dating- The online dating sites are booming with the help of online dating softwares and with this tool instead of making someone else jealous, you have the option to date/chat with more than one person without the other party having knowledge of it. The dating world is your oyster.

10. Level playing field - Here, everyone is in the same boat. Looking for someone else. You never know who you might find.

By George Szifo

How to Succeed in Relationships

2010-06-07T14:07:00.000-07:00

Most people assume Think and Grow Rich, the best-selling book by Napoleon Hill, is purely a program for financial freedom. But as Hill clearly states, true success involves much more than just financial success. Successful relationships are important in many areas including:

Personal relationships that give you the support and encouragement to achieve your burning desire

Working relationships that allow you to get maximum benefit out of the Master Mind group principle

Business relationships that enable you to succeed without sacrificing your ethics and morals

Before you start building a relationship with a potential friend, colleague or lover, you need to build one with yourself. Many people spend little or no time getting to know themselves and what makes them 'tick'. But if you don't know yourself how can you know the sort of people you will get on with? Finding out about yourself -- practicing introspection -- can be uncomfortable, which is why so many of us prefer not to delve too deeply into this area. You may find things you don't like. Chances are that if you don't like some aspects of your personality, attitudes or habits, neither will others.

The most successful relationships are between people who have common interests, values or beliefs. It would make life easier if we came with a list of these attached for anyone to read, like the ingredients on a packet of soup. Then it would just be a question of finding someone with the same set of ingredients, knowing this would lead to compatibility. The way we identify potential compatibility is by asking questions. Asking questions has two purposes. The obvious one is as a method of gathering information. Questioning is also a way of showing interest, of making the other person feel valued. And this usually produces a positive response.

For someone who lacks self esteem asking or answering questions can feel very intimidating at first. These aren't difficult questions though -- they're about you so you do know the answers. And if you're asking the questions it's not difficult either. 'Tell me more about...' is often all that's needed. Looking at the other person, nodding and smiling occasionally also help to show them that you value what they are saying. A few open questions can easily be the start of a lasting relationship.

It is never wise to try to be something you're not, especially when you want to build strong relationships. Start off with untruths and you'll spend all your time trying to remember what you said and living up to your fabrications. Unless you're extremely lucky you will get found out, and your deception could destroy what might have been a great friendship. If there are aspects of yourself you don't like, work to change them so you can form relationships based on honesty.

Strong relationships can weather good times and bad. It's okay to have disagreements with friends, colleagues or lovers; in fact it's unlikely you'll agree on things all the time. Don't let disagreements get out of hand though, or the relationship could suffer. Don't 'take your ball home' -- that's what children do. Take responsibility for the relationship as an adult and discuss the problems so you can overcome them. If it doesn't seem likely that you can resolve the situation you can agree to differ. But you must then ensure that you don't keep bringing the subject up or you'll drive a wedge between you.

Secure and successful relationships can be formed by anyone who is willing to work at them.

By Maggi Birtles

How Relationships Can Reveal Who We Are

2010-05-11T13:55:00.001-07:00

We have often heard the old proverb "birds of a feather flock together". While this idea was around even before psychology became a subject, George Mead was one of the first social thinkers to propose a theory of the "self". The basic idea was that the individual existed only in the context of a group. Ironically, we become individuals through our relationships with others. There are those who are close to us (significant others) and the faint acquaintances and strangers (generalised others).

Our relationships with our significant others tend to satisfy our needs more than our relationships with anyone outside of that group. The opinions and attitudes of our in-group tend to have a greater impact on us. Within the significant others, an intimate romantic relationship is typically at the apex. People expect to have the majority of their needs fulfilled in such relationships.

Intimate relationships tend to reveal who we are by reflecting our deepest fears, needs and desires. As a relationship grows in intimacy, it reflects our innermost realm increasingly. Relationships thus act as mirrors by facilitating greater self-understanding. Even from the outset, the type of people we seek as life partners reveal a great deal about our preferences, priorities and values. Then during the relationship, how we respond to and treat our partners would be determined by how developed and assured we are.

The process of projection is critical to understanding why relationships act as clear mirrors. When we project our feelings and desires onto another person, we tend to interpret that persons actions or behaviour in light of our latent needs. Dr. Gary Smalley discussed this at length in "The DNA of relationships". Our feelings - about what our partner does or who our partner is should be fully-owned by us.

We should not blame our partner for how we feel. Our partner cannot make us angry, disappointed or hurt. This may seem difficult to understand at first, but it is reality. How we respond to our partners - and their behaviour or actions - is based on who we are. If we are constantly feeling negative emotions, it reflects that some our needs or expectations are not being met. Anger, for example, is viewed as a secondary emotion. The initial emotion tends to be fear or hurt. Anger is a defence mechanism such that when we are angry, it reveals more about ourselves than the stimulus that makes us angry.

The interaction we have with our partners are typically relate to needs, known or unknown, which are being met or left unfulfilled. Initially, the type of partners we seek, tend to reflect our personal values and priorities. We tend to seek the qualities that we believe would help us to meet those needs, make us content or complete us.

Sometimes, we get caught in a blame game that does not allow us to realise our own contribution to relationship problems. We blame the other person and claim that the other person is "too needy" or "too demanding" for example. We fail to acknowledge the fact that the partner may not be perceived as such in a previous or future intimate relationship with someone else. Since we cannot remove ourselves completely from the picture, it is logical to conclude that much of what occurs in an intimate relationship is, at the very least, a part-reflection of ourselves.

If we continue to grant power to our significant others, they would continue to reflect the aspects of ourselves that we don't like or wish not to be reminded of. Only when we reclaim this power, something Dr. Gary Smalley refers to as the "Power of One", we would be less bothered by the things that our partner may do (unless what your partner does is fundamentally insidious). The undeniable fact is that our selection process and relationship-handling abilities reveal a lot about the hidden or innermost aspects of ourselves.

By Darrell Victor

Long Distance Relationship Advice For Guys - Great Tips to Make it Work

2010-05-11T13:51:00.000-07:00

Keeping a long distance relationship in good shape can be demanding. It requires two mature individuals who can communicate effectively to make it work. With solid long distance relationship advice, you should be able to have a fulfilling relationship.

In this write up, I talk about a few of the things you can do to ensure your relationship not only endures the test of time (and distance), but blooms. I have also mentioned some of the commonest difficulties couples face and how to keep away from making the same mistakes in your relationship.

One of the earliest things you and your spouse or partner needs to do to ensure you continue to maintain a healthy relationship is to make sure you both agree on whether or not you maintain an exclusive relationship. One of you should not think it's fine to date while you are apart and whilst the other believes the relationship should remain exclusive. If you don not agree on this, the relationship is destined to fail.

Another very important factor for you and your partner is effective communication skills. Communication is the life blood of any relationship, and this is more so when you are far apart. Effective communication between the two of you is what will ensure the relationship keeps going strong in the absence of physical contact.

Insecure individuals should stay away from having long distance relationships. This is because long distance relationships call for a great deal of trust, and usually people who are insecure are overly suspicious. Good relationships cannot be based on distrust.

You and your spouse (or partner) must also take care not to have an affair while away.

If you would like to sustain your long distance relationship you need to recognize in advance that it will be a challenge and you and your partner both have to be dedicated to ensuring it works, however if you heed my long distance relationship advice you and your partner have a real chance of having a beautiful long term relationship.

By Phil Ovil

Where Do I Begin Online Dating?

2010-05-04T14:20:00.000-07:00

Many single men and women want to try online dating. They have heard that such a way of meeting people can do wonders to their love life.

This is fantastic news for the owners of the millions of dating websites out there. It proves that these entrepreneurs indeed were not wrong in taking a gamble on providing these services. Yes, there is a market and it is growing by leaps and bounds. Millions of people sign up for online dating sites every day.

The problem is that many people who sign up are not sure where the process really starts. Is it in creating a profile? Is it in examining oneself to see what kind of mate and relationship they are after? Online dating can begin with both these steps. You have to know what you want in order to create a winning and honest profile. The question however, is: where do you post that profile? This, ladies and gentlemen, is where it all starts. Select the online dating website to join. You need to know what kind of online dating website suits your fancy. While it is true that there are millions of online dating sites out there, you can narrow your search to two basic types that cater to the different singleton markets. These sites include:

The name brands: Such sites are, as the name suggests, what online dating sites are to designer jeans. There are a lot of sites that have become so popular that they are now considered the big names in the industry. The reason for this is their unique brand of service. Some of them offer cutting edge features such as video and voice chat, and secure email. The thing with such sites however, is that some of them command quite a pound for one to become a member. You are assured however of top-notch service for what you pay for.

The specialised sites: As the name suggests, this is where you will find the kind of people you want to be with. These sites focus on a certain niche. There are sites for a certain religion or hobby. It is entirely up to you what suits your taste. Are you a Christian for instance, who is looking for someone who shares your faith? This is the place for you.

Bear in mind that not all online dating websites are created equal. You need to study each one's features in order to get the most out of what you are paying for. So be a smart user and choose your wisely. It can spell the difference between finding the love of your life and ending up with quite the opposite.

By Liz Strawford

How to Be Romantic

2010-01-08T17:26:00.000-08:00

If a romantic atmosphere is what you are missing and really desire, then the starting point is for you to learn how to tease your partner with the use of your word. "Words are the most powerful drug used by mankind" - Rudyard Kipling.

For instance, women tends to take longer time before they get fully excited, so the first point of catching her interest is in you telling her about those things she will like to hear.

A little soft speaking to your woman and in the process of doing this, trying to place your hands around her shoulders and arms, let those hands remain around her skin. By the time you will be through with this, you will be surprise what the positive effect of this simple act will have generated in the body reaction of you and your partner in that moments, and how much she will want you to keep the act going.

As earlier said that women are normally move with the expression from the conversation of men who can talk them in to the action, so here the starting point of the act is the expression of desire as the man. Then what will you really tell her? It is better you start by telling her exactly how you feel with her body around you and the gently movement of your hand around her body, and not hesitate to let her know how much you do appreciate every part of her body. Give attention to every area you are talking about in the process, this might take a lot of time but it going to be the most enjoyable to both of you in the long run.

A little kiss here and there at some sensitive spots is also a bomb to a long time feeling of excitement that you will like to have always in your affairs, so go ahead and try those hints for a start and you won't be wrong.

What you are about to discover is something most people will never know when it comes to being romantic with their partner.

By Oloyede David

Common Dating Mistakes

2010-01-05T16:55:00.000-08:00

There are many common dating mistakes men make, and most of them occur by bringing up intense topics too early into a relationship; politics, religion and sex. Men make many mistakes when it comes to first dates. While dating is not exactly science, what works for one date, will not work for another and so on. It is for this reason that men can become so disillusioned as to what works in a standard dating situation. They may have had one freak accident of a date where throughout the entire date she wanted to hear about was his income and previous sex life and transfer this into what he thinks works in every dating situation.

The majority of common dating mistakes men make stems from what they assume they think their date is thinking, and men have quite a habit of being far from accurate in these assumptions. So what are the main mistakes that men make when it come to dating?

Number one: Arrogance. Bragging and touting on about conquests, achievements and life successes are right up there in the book of common dating mistakes and are bound to get you nowhere in a dating environment. It's when men brag about their possessions and popularity is bound to make any woman think you are nothing more than an attention seeking fool.

Being loud with your money is another of the most common dating mistakes, and a huge turn off for the majority of women out there. Do not assume you would be the major breadwinner in any relationship unless you have a bank balance that mirrors Mr. Trump, because in today's world, the vast majority of women are career oriented professionals, and any woman you meet that is turned on by your bank balance is more than likely going to have eyes only for your cash.

Common dating mistakes that men make generally stem from talking too much and not giving enough time for her to talk and describe what kind of person she is. Many men will listen to a woman speak, only to have her words fall on deaf ears while he waits for his turn to speak. Listen attentively, think of common ground in the topics and issues she raises and use these to spring forward your next conversation, do not just wait for her to take a breath so you can ramble on about how you've been there and done it better. Conversation is a two way process.

By all means love yourself and have confidence in what you can bring to the table of a relationship, but avoid arrogance, vanity and speaking too much about yourself. Listen, listen well and pay attention to her words and voice, not her breasts and legs, and you are bound to avoid many of the common dating mistakes that men make in today's dating world. Have respect for your date, treat her as the centre of your attention and lavish her with your attention and respect, not your cash and stories of you own achievements.

By Trace Huyken

Helpful Guides How to Make Your Relationship Successful

2010-01-01T16:49:00.000-08:00

All couples wish, is to have a happy and lasting relationship. The couples are avoiding conflict and misunderstanding as much as possible to maintain harmony between them. If plants need watering, the love needs nourishing as well to keep the relationship healthy. To achieve such wishes couples need to consider the following guides to make their relationship successful.

Couples must maintain good communication. Many couples experienced lack of communication that leads into misunderstanding, dishonesty and lies. They tend to feel uncomfortable when together and try to avoid not talking about the matter that can lead into worse problem. Grief and bitterness starts to arise as they loss excitement in the relationship. To avoid those instances couples must keep the communication alive. A simple "Hi" or "Hello" "How are you" and "I miss you" will do wonders in the relationship and do not fail to say "I love you." There is a saying by Confucius a Chinese Philosopher that goes "Do not do unto others what you do not want others do unto you." A simple wisdom but can change life forever. Just imagine if all couples think that way it is almost certain that there is no conflict in the relationship. For people in love a single text saying "I miss you and I love you" mean so much that can brighten up the day.

Practice your relationship to be open in all changes. Do not be afraid of changes, it only meant that you are both moving forward and keep growing. Life is a constant change so as people and everything around us. You be surprise how "change" can add excitement or "change" might be the only thing you need to keep your relationship. Sometimes to keep the relationship happy is to accept change. Never hesitate to try new things together it will keep the excitement in your relationship. When both couples maintain the excitement, both will never get bored to be together all the time. Always remember that love needs nourishing all the time, if both of you are working on it, certainly nothing can go wrong. For working couples, a dinner date on weekends will be great to spend together. However do not make it as routine, do some variation like picnic whole day Sunday or Saturday, or go to the beach for the day and even just a simple road trip to countryside. Spending time together is always fun and will make the bond between you stronger plus it nourishes well your love for each other.

Accept your partner's imperfections. No one is perfect, that's the common saying we always hear. There is truth in it and everybody is different, anyone can be similar but never been the same or identical, even twins are not. Acceptance is very important in the relationship. Do not change your partner to suit you nor change yourself to suit him. Being true to yourself is where the love starts let it be the one to cherish, nourish and make your relationship grow. "Honesty is the best policy" we always hear this saying as well. There is no need to pretend in the relationship especially if both of you love each other and planned to get married in order to be together for a lifetime.

Learn to admit when you've done a mistake. This is very important in the relationship, to admit that you are wrong. It does not mean you are less but it will mean so much to your partner. And in such way your partner will learn to accept you as you and not by what you pretend who you are when it is not really you. To admit your mistake is the same as accepting your imperfections through your own acceptance you will learn to accept your partner's imperfection as well. Let it start in yourself and everything will go well more than you thought. Your relationship is growing more than you expect it has.

By Teh-Rah H

Internet Dating Online! UK Dating Site is Virtually Taking Singles to the Next Level of Matchmaking

2009-11-16T13:18:00.000-08:00

With Internet dating online growing rapidly, and expecting to double over the next five years with many leading European dating sites, it's no wonder that many European and International singles are expecting better quality features and services, in order to meet their matchmaking needs!

Single individuals have an ultimate goal, and that is to establish an online compatible relationship! However, to do this they have to trust the Internet dating services their using. One UK based company is earning the peoples trust, by offering unique tools that make it easy to contact members, and they have created a positive interactive experience for their existing members.

So What Are These Great Online Dating Features Everyone's Buzzing About?

YouCanGetMe.com has come out with the next level of dating online with features such as voice, video, and also virtual live dating. What this means for you, is that once you find your match, you can actually hear your matches voice, see what they look like, and have an interactive date over the Internet without having to leave the comforts of your home!

I'm sure one of the biggest disappointments in dating personals for many singles, are the wasted time, and the ongoing miss-matches due to members not telling the truth about themselves. There are many honest people in the dating scene, but there are also a lot of dishonest people as well, and this new technology helps eliminate this annoyance for many members.

Dating Singles Can Now Find Quality Relationships Online With An Audio/Video Experience!

This dating service will be the new leader in how men and women can eventually find real friendship, develop quality relationships, and positively create perfect matches! Imagine, no more disappointing surprises, no more endless hours talking to someone that is not who you think they are, and no more wasting monthly fees with any partner success.

Finally a dating site that understands the concept that people truly want to meet someone special online, and they eventually want to meet people for future romance, and in most cases marriage. All Internet matchmaking sites should be this way, and I would not be surprised if many of the other leading dating sites quickly follow this new technology.

Dating profiles will never be the same, and that's the way it should be when communicated with singles online. There's enough head games going on in the dating community, and individuals want to move forward, and enjoy quality avenues that offer increased options for success in establishing relationships, and we now have finally seen this day come!

By William Parise

The Best Christian Dating Can Be Done Right

2009-11-02T16:51:00.000-08:00

Do you trust in God that He will give you only the best for your love life? If you do, then that is the first step to haveing the best Christian dating experience. Trust in God is the key to successfully meeting your mate, the person who will make you complete. Of course, trusting in Him doesn't mean you have to sit on the couch and wait for the perfect Christian man or woman for you to drop down from heaven. God doesn't work that way. Trusting in Him also means you have to search for the right person and what better way to meet a Christian partner than by getting the best dating service designed for Christians? Now, putting yourself out there does not mean that you have to blindly search at every on line dating site available. Online dating should be approached prayerfully with the right attitude. In this way, you'll not be tempted to stray from God's chosen road for you while dating.

Create an Online Profile that Professes Your Faith

Jesus Himself warned against being ashamed of Him and your faith, so approach your online dating as a way to witness to other people. If you announce to the world that you are a devout Christian, you'll be more attractive to the right person. Remember that nothing is more appealing to a good Christian man than a woman who is in love with Jesus Christ. So take the time to create a profile that not only reveals your interests, but also how much you love God.

Protect Yourself

Online Christian dating is a double-edged sword. On one hand, you have the benefit of meeting far more Christian singles than you would in a singles group at your local church. On the other hand, since you remain anonymous for the most part, it can also have people who have different intentions than you would. Just as Jesus Christ asks us to be vigilant of the works of the Devil, then you should also keep yourself safe while online dating. First you should not give out any personal information without being sure that you can trust the person. Create a temporary email to use and don't give out your personal one until you have established your potential date's character.

Be Friendly

When someone expresses an interest to you and emails you, give them a courteous response. Remember that it takes a lot of courage to make the first move and even if you're not interested, you should let them down easily. Write a quick message that says, "Thanks for your interest, but I think that we're not going to be a good match. Good luck with finding the right person and God bless you." This is a compassionate response to people who, just like you, are trusting in God to find the right person.

Pray

The God of the universe might be very busy but He's not too busy to hear your prayers. He understands your longing to have that special someone and He's willing to give the perfect person for you. That's why the best Christian dating is the one where God is in the center. Don't forget to pray to God about your concerns about Christian dating and never forget to read the Scriptures. You'll see that in these pages lie His answers to your questions. Pray for the best Christian dating experience and He'll certainly give it to you. You're His favorite child, after all and He wants you to find your mate according to His terms.

By Jack Landis

Dating Services Myths

2009-11-02T16:50:00.000-08:00

With so many people seeking love, dating services are rapidly gaining popularity. More and more successful, ambitious, glamorous and highly eligible men and women are turning to the web to find romance and compatibility - and with such a wide range of excellent services out there, it is not surprising. Despite the increase in popularity with services such as these, many singles are still afraid to take that step and join a dating website. A large part of this is because of the myths that still linger around dating online.

While we all like to consider ourselves progressive thinking and sussed, there can still be doubts lurking about searching online to find a partner. Perhaps you have had a bad experience in the past, or maybe your friends have made you feel shy or embarrassed about your profile. Whatever the reason, it is time to bust the common online dating myths for once and for all, so that you can find the love and happiness that you deserve.

The most common myths include the following:

1. The Bigger the Better

Many people think that a large dating website with millions of hits will ensure a better result, with more people viewing their profile. While this may be true in terms of sheer volume, it may not give the best results. Larger sites are often less targeted, and may not have the personalised attention and careful screening process that a smaller, more discreet service may provide. What matters most is the quality of the potential matches you are introduced - this counts far more than sheer volume, and ensures more chance of a fun date and a successful match.

2. Online Dating is Pricey

Some sites may charge a fortune for their members, but many other sites offer affordable and high quality services that don't require you to break the bank. Dating is an investment, but that doesn't mean that you have to pay huge sums to find that special person. The best dating services don't compromise on quality or value. On your actual dates, you needn't spend too much either - simple yet thoughtful dates can have just as much of an effect.

3. You Can't Find Love Online

Hundreds of thousands of happy couples can attest to the fact that you can indeed find love online. Instead of random encounters at a packed function or bar, both parties have invested time and effort to meet people to form meaningful relationships. As services such as Match VIP carefully screen and match prospective partners according to mutual beliefs, values, goals, ambition and interests, you have a much higher chance of meeting a like-minded partner - thereby increasing your chance at lasting happiness and love.

4. Long Distance Romance Doesn't Work

It may not work for every single couple, but if both parties are committed to the relationship, and truly want to be together, then long distance romance can work. The main priority is to be sensible and safe, and make sure that you know your internet dating partner - chat via Skype, send photographs, talk on the phone and connect on Facebook; whatever it takes to get to know your partner before that all-important face to face meeting.

5. You Can't Trust People on Online Dating Websites

Just like you can't always trust people you meet in real life, you get honest and good people, and not-so-good people. If you follow a few basic safety tips and find dating services that are reliable and secure, then you will not have many problems finding love online.

By Rox Bradnick

Free on Line Dating - A Secret Trick You Should Know!

2009-11-02T16:43:00.000-08:00

Inside this short article you will learn a pretty good secret. A lot of professional marketers would charge you for it. In 3 minutes, you'll know what they know. What is that? You will know how to use the biggest and the best dating sites for absolutely free.

The problem with free on line dating: spammers. If you go to Craig'sList and place a personal ad, you will get a hundred emails from con artists who want you to join a dating site or pay to see a live cam show. The same thing happens when you make a dating profile on a totally free dating site. These spammers make a lot of money deceiving people like you and I, who only want to use a free service to find a date. So that presents a big problem. What do we do? Well, we can use these totally free dating services, and perhaps spend days or weeks trying to decide who is real and who is just out to con us, or we can try a clever approach. I suggest you try the clever approach.

Choose any big dating site, not a free on line dating site, though, choose one of the big paid dating sites; whichever one you like. They all let you join for free, so put your credit card away. In order to join they make you create a profile. This is free and even though it can take a couple of minutes it really is two minutes well spent. You must make an attention-grabbing profile. This is important. Choose a user name that grabs the attention of the people you want to date. Select a photo of yourself that is eye-catching. You can even tint it, perhaps. Do whatever you need to do to make that photo stand out from the crowd. Inside your text boxes, where you write about yourself and who you want to meet, make sure you put words that your desired audience would type in to find you. Let us say that you are a lovely, big, beautiful woman with long blond hair. You should use words like "bbw" and "blond" because people search in your area for these characteristics will be typing them into the search bar of that site.

So you have your profile and you've done all of the above. What do you do now? You wait. Here is the secret: On big dating sites you need a premium account to message anyone. So what you do is create your attention-getting free profile and just wait for premium members to contact you. The honest truth is this: almost everyone hates making those free profiles and as such they make terrible ones! Your profile will be excellent. You will get noticed. And people will contact you! This has not cost you a cent - only 5 minutes of your life, nothing more.

The great thing about this approach, compared to normal free on line dating, is everyone contacting you is a real person - no con artists! Now I must say that most of the big dating sites will now make you upgrade to a premium membership if you want to contact anyone who contacts you. However, this is not a bad thing. Just compare this to normal free dating. On a free dating site you might get 50 people contact you. Probably every person will be a spammer. On a big paid site everyone contacting you is real! So even if some of them make you upgrade this is still the best system to use. You end up with an inbox chock full of real, living, breathing people who want to meet you!

By Angelina Andrews

Top Seven Reasons You Should Date Older Men

2009-10-12T18:20:00.000-07:00

Some women find older men attractive. Not that they are inclined to think that younger guys are otherwise. It is just that they are not fascinated with them. Most people believe that a number of women are like this because they find a father figure in every man who is older they meet. This is especially true if the woman is someone who is so attached to her father. But, this cannot be true in all instances.

Some women drop younger men like hot potatoes even at their first attempt to invite them for a date and ended up falling in love with older guys for several other reasons. Now, what are these women's explanations why they prefer to date guys who are older? Here are the six reasons that younger men have to ponder.

1. Women feel protected.

Women feel safe when they are with someone older than they are. Remember, women have this 'baby instinct'. They want to be cared for. They want to always be protected by their men. They do not expect men their age - or younger than them - to save them in time of 'distress'. Yes, a knight in shining armour; that is what women like for men.

2. Women feel emotionally stable.

Women think older guys have already gone through many relationships while they were young; hence, they will not cheat anymore. They are already in the stage of their lives where they are thinking of settling for one woman only. Lover's quarrel will probably not prevail.

3. Older men are financially secured.

Do not be mistaken. This is not an issue of gold-digging. This is just a matter of becoming practical. For some women, stability is a primary concern; happiness will automatically come next.

4. Older guys are good conversationalists.

Older guys are nurtured by their age and experiences. Generally, they do not make senseless talks. Because some women get bored talking about trivial issues, which often come from younger men; they prefer to have an intelligent conversation with older guys.

5. Older men are serious about their relationship.

Older guys, in general, are serious about matters of the heart. Since they are already of age, they do not play around with girls anymore. They say what they feel - no beating around the bush. Women find peace and contentment in this setup.

6. Older men already have the job.

Some women like to go out with older men because they are sure, they have the funds to shoulder all the costs of their date because they have a stable job. Precisely, they will not feel guilty about them paying all the bills.

7. Older men look more physically alluring.

Sometimes, there is a physical reason women choose older men for a date: older men look sexier than younger men. They have the physique that will make any woman fall. Need we say more?

There are several other reasons that will make women go out on a date for older men. The list may become endless even.

By Harrison Fray

Top Seven Dating Etiquettes For Women

2009-10-12T18:18:00.000-07:00

You've had sleepless nights. Your secret crush finally asked you for a date. You are so ready to go - though it will still happen two days from now. You have already prepared for your look - from your hairstyle down to your shoes. Your 'script' for a conversation is also ready should your date run out of words to say or stories to tell. But, you have forgotten one thing: there are etiquettes that you should know to avoid ruining the first-ever or most-awaited date of yours. Check this list for your guidance.

1. Be a good listener.

Because your date is the one who invited you, he is supposed to introduce himself to you. He is the one to share things about him. Be a good listener then. Be attentive to what he says. Be polite. Do not cut him from his talk. If you wish to speak, let him finish first. In this way, you will know more about him. Isn't dating supposed to be discovering the man in front of you?

2. Be respectful of his opinion.

Do not be rude. Do not be opinionated. Respect his opinions. Do not try to argue just to make your point clear to him. Remember, this should be an enjoyable night.

3. Be appreciative.

He prepared this date for you, right after settling from your seat, say 'thank you' for his invitation. This will break all the tensions he has while waiting for you. Yes, men do feel the tension during dates.

4. Be punctual.

Yes, it is a tradition that men should come earlier than women in the restaurant where they will be dating. But please, do not make it too long or else, he will lose the excitement he felt earlier. Of, if he will fetch you in your home, make sure that you are ready to go when he comes.

5. Be polite

Learn to appreciate and be contented with what he has in store for your dinner date. For an instance, if you do not like the food, do not make him feel that you do by ordering your own food. Just try to eat what is in the table. Moreover, make use of good languages - do not attempt to utter even a single bad word.

6. Dress properly.

Do not go overdress; in fact, it may help if you will ask your date if he will require a formal or informal wear. This way, you will not feel uncomfortable if you will see dress in formal and you, in casual clothes.

7. Let him pay for the bills.

Do not try show off. Do not tell him that you will share with him whatever costs have been incurred because of the date. It will make him feel embarrassed.

Follow these rules of the thumb and surely, you will hear him say before he bids you good bye: "Can I ask you again for a date?" You deserve it because you have been so good for a date.

By Harrison Fray

How to Impress Your Date When She Doesn't Want to Be Impressed

2009-10-07T18:13:00.000-07:00

No matter what guys think, women are not easily impressed, no matter how hard you try to impress them. They already know when you're trying to pull a fast one on them. They see your body language, and realize right away what you're trying to do. This is why it is important before meeting HER to know what are the best ways to impress your date. Else failure is imminent and usually you don't get a second chance.

To impress a girl you must show her that you don't really want her, you are not needy of her. Else she will reject you straight away. She will find it easy, not worth fighting for, not challenging enough. All women want is something unique. They are going to rate you based on your behavior with them. So instead of showing her too much attention, showing that you're not that interested in her, she will come running after you.
During the date act disinterested in her. Change your act, first show total interest and listen carefully to what she says, and then look around, look at your watch, act almost slightly bored. This is when her instinct will kick in and she will want desperately your attention. She will believe that you are really not so interested in her, not so impressed with her, which means that she will push herself even more to get your attention.

Also make her believe that you have something important to tell her, but never really tell her what it is. Start telling her and then say 'it's ok, you wouldn't understand anyway', making her feel that she's almost not worthy and she has to struggle to impress you. So in the end, instead of you trying to impress her, you will just have to sit back and watch as she will try to impress you instead! How's that for a great way to impress your date?

By Judy Wainheart

Secret Of Dating

2009-10-07T14:31:00.000-07:00

The practice whereby a guy would go to a girl's home to talk with her, meet her parents and possibly have some refreshments is called "calling". In calling, there was parental involvement and gave the girl more advantage in the relationship. Because all contact took place in her home, she control the environment. She either accept or refuse a caller. But in dating, is a different thing entirely.

It was by the mid of 1920s that dating strongly took over "calling". Now, in dating, the guy has a upper hand. He take the girl into the outside world and pay for the expenses of transportation, dinning and entertainment. In dating, money becomes the order of the day. For a man, money is proportional to better date, that is, the more money the man has the better date he could provide and the better girl he could get along with.

When it comes to relationships teenagers are always crazy, teenagers are in dilemma, hoping in anything and everything that promises fulfillment or happiness. In dating, everybody has somebody-a boy friend, a girl friend. Unless and until you have somebody, then you doesn't belong, especially for those who are looked at as "cool" must have a boyfriend or girlfriend.

There is a confusion among the born-again teens, because most of the world, including majority of the born-again community, has already determined that dating is a "recipe to a complete teenage experience". Most people date because they are being push into it.

But a true born-again sees the dating way with heart breaking and pit falls of temptations, a path that is not look at as safe to marriage.

BIBLICAL PRINCIPLES OF COURTSHIP

Both parents and children must put hands on deck to walk out means to return to the more biblical principles of courtship.

Courtship is a reformed version of dating under the supervision of parents between a man and woman who are ready to marry in the near future. Courtship prevents the pit falls of contemporary dating and give a much safer, smoother rite to marriage between the man and the woman.

DATING IS A PROBLEM

The number one problem of dating is that, it has a little to do with marriage. Dating does not have a destination, it is only made for fun. In dating, there is no guideline, you are just floating around.

Young people experience the romantic and exciting site of a relationship without responsibility or commitment through dating. Dating provides feelings of intimacy and create emotional "highs" especially when he says "I love you" but it has nothing to hold it together. Dating among teens is nothing to write home about, because most teens who date are not in the position to marry. The relationship could only result into physical temptation induce by emotional intimacy becomes the aim of the relationship. There are some couples that break up at this point and move on to a new relationship seeking the excitement of "falling in love". This kind of dating is nothing more than recruitment ground for divorce.

COURTSHIP IS A REMEDY

Courtship has a definite planned destination, that is a lasting marriage. Courtship could only begin when one is ready for marriage in the near future. You only court a person who you and your parents have accept her quality and you date someone you have no long time interest in.

The decision of when young people are ready for marriage is one that should be reached with the help of parents and based on certain criteria.

Young people should prepare for marriage in three (3) practical areas such as: career and finances, fatherhood and home maintenance. The areas of practical preparation for girls are: home-making, teaching and motherhood. These criteria obviously exclude a great number of teens.

In courtship no broken heart syndrome which is associated with dating. The toughest thing that will ever happen to a lady is breaking-up with her. When you give someone your heart, it's different the next time around. You want to get along but you doubt doing it because you don't want to get hurt again. In courtship the couple can terminate the aim in a courtship relationship is not to achieve physical and emotional intimacy. Courtship relationship is not long term. Courtship needs only as long as it takes to get to know a person and determine if he or she has certain characteristics. If the qualities are not there, no reason to continue courtship.

ONE MAJOR PITFALL OF DATING

Dating takes place outside of the home. It is two people being along, isolated from the rest of the world and their goal is privacy. This results to isolation from family, God and friends. There is almost always a breakdown in a relationship with God even without your intention. This isolation often leads to sexual temptation. "Flee the evil desires of youth", too much of staying together may lead's to sin. Dating separates two people from the protection of DATING. The practice whereby a guy would go to a girl's home to talk with her, meet her parents and possibly have some refreshments is called "calling". In calling, there was parental involvement and gave the girl more advantage in the relationship. Because all contact took place in her home, she control the environment. She either accept or refuse a caller. But in dating, is a different thing entirely.

But a true born-again sees the dating way with heart breaking and pit falls of temptations, a path that is not look at as safe to marriage.

By Benedict Solomon

Online Dating Blunders That Women Usually Make

2009-10-07T14:19:00.000-07:00

If you have lost hope in finding someone special on online dating sites then we are here to rescue you. We have listed few main blunders that usually women make on online dating sites. Boost your success rate considerably by avoiding all these mistakes and choose a right plan to get charming men for dating.

Are you tired of sitting in front of your computer screen and just dieing to get a message from handsome men? Daily you check your scrap book hoping today you will get some message but to your disappointment no handsome men contacted you so far.

Have you given up?!

Listen to your intuition

If you have a feel that he is not the right man you are talking to, then don't ignore your intuition. Whenever you have a slight doubt that the man is hiding something or pretending to be someone he is not then chances are your intuitions are warning you to be safe. Filter your dates and meet only those who genuinely interest you, instead of wasting your time in trying your luck on total strangers. This approach always work in brushing away all the bad dates.

Don't wait for men to write to you first

Most women believe in the very traditional approach that men approach women for dates. Are you visiting handsome men profiles on online dating and totally drooling over some of them! You do pause for a while but you can't really make up your mind whether you should drop a message or not. Women think that if they will approach men first then may be it will give a sign that we are desperate! Mostly women want men to approach them. And it's a very fact that women feel awkward in approaching men first, no matter how madly they are attracted towards them.

Actually, the truth is men love it when women approach them. So from now onwards if you like some man's profiles just don't hesitate to send a short text message. Most probably, you will get a reply back and from there on you can take it further!! Just make sure that you upload an interesting profile o dating sites! So don't waste your time in just waiting for handsome men to get in touch with you first.

Don't judge them by their profiles.

Come on women! Generally, women exaggerate their actual height by an inch and lower their weight by at least 30 pounds! Then why it's an issue if men exaggerate on their height. And how can you forget the very fact that how many women literally tell their real age!! Don't judge any men before you actually communicate with them for some time period. Don't form your opinion from the profiles which you browse on online dating sites because the real side only comes out when you actually communicate with them.

Don't feel ditched!

You met some man through online dating site and you plan to meet him. Both of you really had a good time but suddenly he just vanished. And you end up wondering that where you went wrong. Don't fool yourself by presuming that you are the only one for him. Men also have many choices the same way women have. If you presume that you are the only one he met through online dating then you must be completely wrong.

Don't rush into meeting men

Once you start to feel a comfort level with him and it's hardly been a month of knowing each other. You probably end up getting curious to meet him to check the chemistry in real. Don't rush into it! Most women end up disappointed after meeting the men in real life. Women you need to remember that online dating requires some screening before you actually make up your mind to meet the person in real. Take enough time to get to know each other through voice chat or text messages. You should at least take 4-5 months of time to know him before you plan to meet him personally. It's a better choice to meet one genuine man in 6 months instead of 5 pricks in a month!

It is not working the way you thought it will

When you enrolled on to the online dating site you perceived it to be an easy dating game! You have never faced any problem in attracting men in your real life. You are pretty, intelligent and a great company to hang around with. But surprisingly, men who are contacting you on online dating sites are not of your taste. You know there are decent men out there but why are you not being approached by them?!

It's quite simple. There are hundreds of options for them and they are going to make the best choices! It's a fact that women usually want to be approached by men!! Don't hesitate to browse profiles on online dating sites and message those men you found attractive.

Don't get frustrated too easily

It's obvious that sometimes on online dating sites you will get emails of men who are stupid, brainless and annoying. Don't get aggravated, all you have to do is to ignore them. If they still keep on bothering you like an idiot then just avoid them. Don't waste your time in replying back to them. You can't eliminate their names from the dating site, they have the right to post messages to anyone they would like to, after all they are also the member of the site like everybody else. Mostly women reply back giving them warnings but you know that it won't be of any use! As a smart woman all you have to do is to delete the emails you find exasperating and carry on with decent men!

Right approach decides it all

If you think that you don't get right men on online dating sites as they are not genuine. Then my dear friend your presumption is totally wrong! There are millions of great single men out on online dating sites who are handsome, tall, and intelligent. The only factor which counts in attracting men on dating sites is your outlook towards them. Your success rate is determined only by the way you carry it forward. You need to plan your approach with the right attitude.

Unrealistic time- line

Sometimes women set unrealistic expectations! If you hope to meet a decent man in a month of you posting your profile on a dating site then it's impractical. You won't be getting your soul mate in a month or so! Obviously you will be disappointed if you expect to come across your prince charming in that short period. In reality we all know that how difficult it is to find soul mates. But then why women lack patience on dating sites. Don't just quit and stick to it for some time period!

So finally, now after reading these online dating tips you know what kind of mistakes you have been committing. From now onwards just avoid these mistakes and considerably increase your success rate on online dating sites.

By Venorica Ghomes

Mature Dating - Welcome to Dating Mature

2009-09-28T15:28:00.000-07:00

It is not going to be as easy as it was when you were younger. Welcome to dating older. You may have times when you don't know where to look for a date. Welcome to dating older. There aren't as many people that are available. Welcome to dating mature. Sometimes it just feels awkward. Welcome to dating mature. There will be times when you feel like giving up. Welcome to dating mature. You have positively, absolutely come to your wits end. Welcome to dating mature. All of these things are just a few examples of the experiences of the dating mature, however the list could go on and on. Dating older isn't an easy feat but it can be an enjoyable one. You just have to know how to make it fun. You have to first know that you are not the only one dating older. There are many others just like you going through the same types of ups and downs as you are going through. You just have to be willing to stick through the sad times to get to the happy times. You can definitely find a dating mature person that is compatible with you. It may just take you doing something that you have never tried before. You might want to consider online dating or maybe even the help of a matchmaker.

Online dating and the dating older go hand in hand. There are many online dating websites that cater to dating older. They give you a chance to be an environment where there is nothing but dating older people with all types of desires and you will be amazed at how many of those desires match yours. All you have to do is do a search on the Internet for dating mature online dating websites and visit each online dating older website until you find the one that you feel is right for you. You can then create a profile so that the other dating mature members will be able to get to know you better and maybe even reach out to you and invite you to a chat room. If you feel you are not ready to create a profile, you can browse through the dating mature member profiles and see if there is anyone that interest. Online dating older websites also allow you to perform a detailed search were you can look for the qualities you would like in a person.

Then there are matchmakers. Matchmakers are a great option for the dating mature. They can provide you with the type of people that would be of interest to you and can also decrease the chance of going out on a date with someone that doesn't want the same things that you want. Matchmakers will get to know you better and what you want out of a relationship and in turn produce results that will make you happy. Dating older isn't as difficult as it may seem. With the help of someone who knows the road of dating, you will find it much easier to find exactly what you are looking for.

By Allen Tane

Romantic Summer Dates

2009-09-15T15:19:00.000-07:00

Just because you and your sweetie are strapped for cash doesn't mean you have to put romance on hold. Here are some low cost ways to make the most out of those long summer evenings. Who knows, these affordable alternatives to costly date nights may just end up being some of the most fun you and your special someone have had in awhile.
Play Tourist. When was the last time you took a good look at the neighborhood you call home? Contact your local chamber of commerce (or take a quick spin around the internet) for local hot spots. Put together a walking tour of your city, and take some time to explore it together. You may want to admire architectural highlights, visit some local museums, hit up the historical highlights, or simply take a long walk around a local park. Either way, you'll appreciate the place where you live (and each other) a little more after examining it with new eyes. You'll be surprised at everything you've missed as you rush by on your morning commute.

New Takes on a Classic Date. Dinner and a movie is always fun, but between reservations at a swanky restaurant, outrageously priced theater tickets, and five dollar candy bars, it can wreak havoc on your budget. Instead, try this fun version of movie night- Look up a restaurant recipe on the internet, and try recreating it at home together. Food is sensual- and as you chop, smell, taste and plate your creations, you will probably find the experience to be much more romantic than simply ordering off of a menu. Skip the local theater and snuggle up on the couch with a great DVD instead.

By Mike Ali

Finding the Best Online Dating Services Quickly

2009-09-15T15:05:00.000-07:00

The best online dating services gained a tremendous amount of popularity over the last few years. When you think about it, it's really not a shocker that internet dating would surge in members as more and more people are getting online everyday. Even in todays day and age, not everyone has a computer in their home. It almost seems hard to believe that everyone does not have a personal computer at home.

The world wide web has made dating much easier for people with time constraints that don't allow them to go out and mingle in public. Many people just do not have enough time in the day to try to find someone unless they can do it all from home. Thus, the beauty of internet dating web sites were born and the best online dating services were poised for growth.
When looking for the best online dating services it is best to head on over to your favorite search engine and do a little research first. It is always a good idea to check out a few dating site reviews prior to settling on a particular dating web site.

Firstly, a good reason for this is to see what each site offers that another does not. Many of the best online dating services offer pretty much the same thing to their members. The majority of the best internet dating sites usually let users create a free profile, view photos of nearby singles, and browse other members. Some of the best online dating services will even let you initiate contact without having to be a paying member.

Secondly, pricing can vary quite a bit with some of the best online dating services. Needless to say, it's usually a good idea to look and understand the pricing of the dating web site you are thinking about joining. Nobody wants to get hit with some outrageous bill, so make sure you know what option you are signing up for. For example, a six month or year membership will cost ya a nice amount of cash on some of the best internet dating sites. When a month to month membership or three month membership might not be such a big hit to the pocketbook.

Finally, some of the best online dating services will help screen fake profiles also known as spam profiles. This is a huge benefit for the best internet dating sites as you probably do not care to get bombarded with a bunch of spam messages from fake profiles. A select few of the best online dating services will even do some kind of background check on users to screen them for violent criminals. This really sets the best internet dating sites apart from the rest.

Now you see why the best online dating services have grown a great deal in the past years. They add convenience to a process that before was simply something you had to go out to accomplish. So, be sure to look over the best internet dating sites closely before choosing the right dating web site for you.

By Larry Haywood

Single and Not Loving It? Try Online Dating Services

2009-09-13T15:32:00.000-07:00

If you’re single and lonely, looking for that special someone who will light up your life but have found it next to impossible to do on your own, you may want to try online dating services.

Dating services can either be for pay or for free. Demanding payment, however, is not a guarantee of quality service so you have to be careful about which dating service you select. If it’s free, the same holds true – there are no guarantees that you will wind up with someone you can have a relationship with.

According to the website www.free-dating-service.info, some of the top dating-related websites are as follows: True.com, AmericanSingles.com, Date.com, Love Access, ThirtyPlusSingles, PerfectMatch, SingleMe, Dreammates, Yahoo Personals, WebDate, and U-Singles.
How do these services differ? Some allow you to post your personal profile for free. Others permit you to browse into their inventory of profiles of individuals who are also looking. One will let you do online chatting with members of the site.

What would each site be looking for? You can post a profile that lists your hobbies, interests, occupation, gender, looks, religion, income and location. Every dating service has a matchmaking component that aims to let couples that are compatible
meet up in cyberspace.

Will that first date lead to a second date? It depends on you and your date, of course. But a word of caution: by patronizing a dating service, you are opening up your life to strangers so be careful what kind of information you divulge to the world.

The site www.free-dating-service.info is merely a portal that lists the afore-mentioned websites. It does not offer dating services.

It does however, provide more information that may be useful to someone on the prowl. For example, it subdivides the services offered into categories such as Alternative Dating, Adult Dating, Ethnic Dating, Regional Dating, Religious Dating, Specialty Dating and Speed Dating. There is something for everyone.

It also offers other data like a column on Dating Resources. This has Dating Articles, an Online Dating Guide, Dating Books and eBooks, Love Horoscopes, a button for sending eCards, Dating Fun and Games, and Dating Gifts/Flowers.

For the Dating Advice column, you get information about Dating Experts, Dating Ideas, Dating Tips, Self-Help, Advice Books, Dating Profile Help, and Dating Tip Sites.

To ad a little spice to the site, it has FDS Dating Quizzes which asks questions like: Is it Love or is it Lust?, Do You Like to Flirt?, Do You Know Your Celebrity Couples?, Is Your Partner Cheating?, and Are You Conservative or Risque Between the Sheets?

Furthermore, the site has a few ads related to online dating.

Some of the sites listed allow you to email your prospective date or even see a live video of them. You can enter chatrooms or try voice mail.

You will need a secure telephone line and Internet access, of course. But you get all this from the privacy and comfort of your own home, in front of your personal computer.

So what do you have to lose? Check out an online dating service now and see the results.

By Dave Poon

Dating Tip For Men - If She Thinks You're Cheap, Dump Her

2009-08-14T18:46:00.000-07:00

When you had it like that, it was all good for you and your lady friend. That doesn't mean you ran out and bought her a gold necklace on a regular basis or that you deliberately found the most expensive restaurant you could to the point the waiters knew you by your first name. But you did alright for yourself and by your date.

That was then, this is now. You have thankfully been able to hold on to your job while watching your coworkers get laid off and your benefits package get cut in half. Have you thought about trying to find a job somewhere else? On more than a few occasions but after doing some research you came to the unhappy conclusion that if you quit this one than you would have to take another one at far less pay. You have been cutting back enough in your personal life without having to entertain the prospect of taking home less money every couple of weeks.

So you grin and bear it. Things will pick up soon (we hope) but in the meantime you are going to have to make a number of sacrifices. And one of them is the area of personal finances.

Never been much of coupon user? That's about to change dramatically. What about bargains? We all like them but it is not like you really ever went out of your way to find them. Not anymore.

Unfortunately this cost cutting does not stop there. It extends directly into your dating relationship. The days of going out and painting the town are still going to happen. However as you have calculated, they will not only be few and far between but more budget conscious. No you are not happy with it but economic reality is dictating the terms.

And the question in all this is how your lady friend will take it. A great many women are very prudent when it comes to economic matters. If you have a coupon for that eatery or can catch the early bird special, she has no problem with that; in fact she maybe the one suggesting you do so.

It's hard to escape what is happening at this moment so going easy on your finances maybe her idea. She also may offer to foot the bill from time to time or at least pay half. Then there are the creative but inexpensive date ideas. Yes they are cheap but if done right they can add a lot of fun to your dating relationship.

But if she has grown accustomed to the life you have provided for her before this economic downturn and refuses to make any compromises or changes then you may have to sit down and take a long hard look at the relationship. She may decide to beat you to the punch and look for greener pastures elsewhere. If that happens so be it. In these tough times you need a partner not a burden. Tough times are the best times to test the mettle of a relationship. If nothing else she did you a favor by freeing you up to find greener pastures.

By Daryl Campbell

Online Dating For Adults

2009-08-10T15:25:00.000-07:00

Online dating for adults is becoming very popular. With the ever growing possibilities in today's world, online dating can be one of the best things to hit the Internet. Although there are many dating and chat rooms, adults will definitely make better use of them than will teenagers.

Keep reading and you'll find out more what adult online dating is all about.

The name: When the word adult and online appear together, people tend to associate it to something of a pornographic nature, but not all adult dating sites have a sexually explicit theme to them. Adult in this sense means simply a site that provides a place for adults to surf and not for the underage.

What they provide: Adult online dating offers a milieu for adults to connect with one another without meeting in person. They are strictly for adults because some content may be sexually explicit and not suitable for teens or children. These may include nudity, graphical content, or personal information that they may not want a teenager to indulge in. There are however other special sites for teenagers.

Types: In adult online dating milieu, there are sites dedicated solely for the aim of looking for a sexual partner. These websites may be used to get a partner for sex only and not for any long term or serious relationship. These sites charge usually more than the traditional websites because of the features they may include. Some of these features are: Sending virtual gifts, messages or videos to others.
Traditional dating sites lean towards the finding of a perfect soul mate. These sites habitually use very detailed profiles so others can view your interests, religious beliefs , or hobbies. These sites are therefore more applicable for adults because most teenagers aren't looking for their soul mate at 15.

Benefits: In the world of adult dating, there are many benefits included in this service. Varied level of privacy in different sites is one of the benefits. Some websites only use your postal code to determine your location while others may be more specific. Typically, the biggest benefit is that you are able to hook up with different people in different geographical locations and that in itself is quite amazing!

Before registering with an adult dating online, you may want to consider whether paying for for a service like that is really worth it or whether you are better of just meeting people in person. The answer to this question depends on individuals. A lot of people find it easier and a lot of fun to use online dating services to find their perfect match because almost all the work has been done for you and also, you'll be meeting others with same interests and also looking to hookup.

Busy professionals may not have the time to meet the perfect one so they make use of online dating service. It maybe be important to find out if it is really worth it or if meeting people in person works better for you. Most good Online Dating For Adults sites are free to join so there is really no reason why you'll not want to give it a shot.

By A Peterslove

Get an Online Date Now That the Stigma Has Ceased

2009-08-06T16:10:00.000-07:00

Is there still a prejudice against and a stigma applied to the decision to get an online date? Those choosing to cast their profile over the net to get an online date in the past have been labeled, and not always in a positive light. But there is good news out there singles. With so much positive marketing over the years, the labels are finally lifting. Even celebrities are coming out about their decision to use the Internet as a viable means of finding a life partner.

Personally, I am grateful for the opportunities online dating has presented to me. I have built friendships of some truly amazing people from different professions and walks of life. I never would have met these people, as friends, let alone for a life long relationship, if it weren't for taking the opportunity to get an online date. The friends I've made are a great example of the fact that any labels applied because someone chooses to use an Internet dating site are unfounded.
Online dating success stories are occurring around the world. Happiness and love are contagious. People hear about someone's successful union and seek to get an online date for themselves. Leaving the pigeonhole and expanding their personal horizons has enabled many former singles to endorse the process and announce with a smile, "we met online."

Skeptics, if you are letting cynicism keep you from finding your happiness, preventing you from profiling to get an online date, wake up! There is proven success in choosing to use a reputable matchmaking site. The site that I used reports being responsible for approximately 33,000 successful unions a year. The number of people getting involved with online matchmaking is staggering. These numbers simply don't lie.

Unfortunately, there is still a sector of singles who have avoided jumping into the pool to get an online date because of past stigmas. These singles are perpetuating their own dating dilemma and keeping any past misconceptions alive.

On a personal note, choosing to get an online date has worked for me and my fiance. We met online in the Fall of 2007 using the service listed below. Initially, she was harboring skepticism against the process and her prospects for success, but after taking the plunge, she realized her skepticism was unfounded. At present, we have our wedding date set for September 21 of this year. I would say that we are positive proof that seeking to get an online date is a viable option for finding a life long partner.

By Brian R. Adams

Dating and the Midlife Woman - The Cougar?

2009-07-20T22:51:00.000-07:00

It made debut weekend box-office records and surprised people: the new romantic comedy The Proposal. It features 44-year old Sandra Bullock in the starring role, and her on-screen love interest is 32-year old Ryan Reynolds. Bullock even has her first nude scene, something she did not do in any of her on-screen roles during her 20s and 30s. The message is that "even" in her 40s, a woman is "hot". The publicity around the film, however, makes no mention of Bullock's and Reynold's age difference and the studio would not talk about it in an interview.

Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher. Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell. Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins. These are a few of the more prominent (and successful) real-life known pairings of midlife women and younger men. The women in these real-life relationships are now being labelled as "cougars".
A New Label for Women
Labeling people and putting them in categories is a common way of dehumanizing them, of not seeing them as human beings, of objectifying them. Once you have an animal or object labeled, especially as an animal or mythical/fantasy entity, then you have them under control and contained. They are simple, not complex as are real humans. Now, you can decide what to do with them and you need not treat them with the respect and consideration you would give a human. Women have historically been categorized as in generalizations such as the symbolic triumvirate of The Virgin/Saint, The Mother and the (Bad Woman).
Cougars do not fit into the first two categories. That leaves (Bad Woman).
Defining the Cougar
But what IS a cougar? A cougar is generally considered to be a woman of 35 or older who seeks out romantic or sexual relationships with younger men. She is supposed to be an overtly sexual woman over 35 who seeks out men for sex - but doesn't want commitment, cohabitation or children. The term "cougar" implies predation, manipulation, cunning behavior, sneakiness, and attacking. It implies a woman is an animal with sharp claws, a deceitful nature and a creature who is sex-starved or over-sexed.
Some related definitions I came across are "cougar-juiced" and "cougar dens".
"Cougar-juiced" is a term men use to describe having been (successfully) preyed upon by a midlife woman..and "juicing" her is the euphemism for the man's sexual conquest of her
"Cougar dens" are parties arranged for the purpose of putting together midlife women and younger men for sexual hookups.
Looking at these common definitions and ascriptions, is the "cougar" what women 35 and older want to be -- not a human being with a life, but a sexually predatory animal who is driven by sexual organs and desires and having sex that she "should not be having"?There are no special terms for single, sexual men. They're usually just called men. If a man meets a woman and has sex with her he is praised as "lucky". Single, sexual men tend to be categorized and praised in terms of their job status, their income, their sexual power and their sports achievements. If a 47-year old man is dating or having sex with a 28-year old woman he is lauded for sexual virility and power.
Single, sexual women are labeled derogatorily in terms of their sexuality. The labels infer that for midlife women being sexual is not societally acceptable and normal. It is inferred to be an aberration, unnatural, and not something positive, healthy and human. Midlife women are viewed in terms of a negative sexuality. It is not so long ago that women were considered to be sexually dried up, void, unsatisfying, unsatisfied and dysfunctional by the time she reached the age of 40 and/or was unable to bear children. She was likely someone's wife and if she was having a fulfilling sex life she was not fulfilling the expected role of Virgin/Saint or Mother. She was left with the (Bad Woman) label, whether spoken or unspoken.
The Midlife Woman in the Media
Is the "cougar" a media-created and media-driven trend that will fade from view? Could the "cougar" be extinct by Summer 2010?
Popular television shows like Sex and the City, Brothers and Sisters, Damages and The Closer portray midlife women as confident, intelligent, attractive working women with personal and professional lives. There is a new television show called Cougartown, in which Courtney Cox portrays a sex-starved housewife (although the media whisper is a prediction of early cancellation). There is also an upcoming reality dating show called The Cougar.
The Hollywood film industry jumped on the bandwagon last year, opening Summer 2008 with Sex and the City: The Movie, a film which garnered the largest opening in history for a film centered solely on women. This seems to be continuing with several films for Summer 2009: In My Life in Ruins, there is no mention of age difference as Nia Vardalos (46) seduces Alexis Georgoulis (34), In Cheri, Michelle Pfeiffer (51) enjoys a romantic and sexual relationship with a man, Rupert Friend (27), who is nearly half her age. The film The Rebound, centers on a May-September dating relationship between Catherine Zeta-Jones (39) and a 25 year old man. In Julie & Julia, Meryl Streep (60) plays real-life culinary superstar Julia Child while the younger Stanley Tucci (49), portrays her husband.
Real-life Midlife Women
Women ages 35 and older as a group are more confident, pre-occupied with their lives, busy working on their careers and not consumed with giving up their lives to support a man in his pursuit of his goals and dreams. They are more relaxed in their bodies and comfortable with their sexuality, not letting it be dictated by men and men's fantasies. They are not centered on trying to look like a supermodel or Playboy bunny. They know their bodies and their minds and do not get confused and forget who they are because a man pays attention to them. They generally know not to listen to what a man says rather to, instead, watch what he does.
In real-life, a significant number of men prefer the midlife woman between the ages of 35 and 60 who is somewhere between approximately 10-20 years older. What is appealing to these men is the stability of an older woman and the confidence, the lack of game-playing. The modern midlife woman also tends to be very young at heart because midlife has evolved, and the consequence is women ages 35 and older have better and more life options. Midlife women living in developed nations in today's world have access to better healthcare, more control over their bodies and their sexuality, and better exercise options
Your Relationship with a Younger Partner
If you are a midlife woman age 35 or older, you understand that you are not an animal, not a mythical or fantasy creature, not driven in life by your sexuality. You understand that you are a complex human adult female with a job/career, family, friends, choices, challenges, opinions, interests, and yes, a sexuality.
Choosing to be with a younger male partner is like choosing ANY male partner, including, what challenges you two might face regarding, for example, financial or healthcare issues; and what roles you allow the media, your family and you friends to play in your relationship.
Two areas I mentioned, namely healthcare and finances, are ones in which you will want to be especially attentive, as you will want to ensure that you remain financially in control of your resources. Women still do not make an equal income compared to men and any assets you have should be protected. Money and love have nothing to do with one another so do not assume the love you feel today will keep your money safe tomorrow. Women live longer than men and more senior citizen women live in poverty than men. Think about your retirement and guard your future. As far as healthcare, remember that as a midlife woman you have special issues and need to take good care of your body as you approach or go through menopause and other related and unrelated aging issues.
Remember, the midlife woman is a human being, not an animal (cougar) and she is in control of her private relationship with a younger man.
And if all indications are true, the "cougar" media-hype trend will be extinct or at least hardly noticeable in the next year or so, and the relationships will endure. Just ask Susan and Tim, Demi and Ashton, and Goldie and Kurt.
To your success in life!
By L. Barrett Powell

Online Dating Guide - Do You Know the Only Dating Site Where You Can't Lie About Your Age?

2009-07-16T18:53:00.001-07:00

Glamor Press often tells us that today's 50 is yesterday's 30, yet a vibrant 50 year old can't shave 20 years off your age in a dating profile without lying. If you list your actual age, you may get shut out of dating searches because of age.

Everyday, honorable singles who sign up for internet dating sites must decide whether to fiddle with your age to be included in dating searches or to list your actual age and face dating discrimination based on age.

One new dating site has ended this online dating dilemma by adding an ageless-timeless spirit to dating searches.

When you sign up for this Singles Club, you won't feel any need to lie about your age because you are not asked to list your age in your dating profile. You only have to affirm that you are over 21 years of age in order to meet single men and women in the club.

How can you meet your great love on this site if you can't do a dating search in your preferred age range?

You can choose your preferred age range for your great love in your online dating searches. In doing so, your dating profile will be included in online searches in the same age range that you seek in your love match.

For example, if you're seeking a love match in prime childbearing years, you may choose a desired age range of men or women between 21-35. This means your own dating profile will appear in searches in this age group.

If you're seeking a love match who's empty nested and free to travel the world with you, you may select a desired age range of 40-60. Then your dating profile will appear in searches in this age group.

If you're seeking travel groups or single friends and you don't want to limit your search by age, you may choose a desired age range between 21-121. Then your dating profile will appear in online searches in every age group in the club. This way, you make sure you don't overlook your great love or great new friends to pursue your dreams of world travel because of age.

What if you want to find out how fit and healthy your potential love match is today?

There are three ways to do this:

1. Every member of the Singles Club will post a current photo, taken in the past 12 months. This photo will be visible in your dating profile in all searches.

If you'd prefer to hide your photo and search incognito, it's best to join the other dating sites that permit this.

If you're 50 and seeking a 25-35 year old, possibly to raise a family together, then your current photo will appear in all searches in the 25-35 age group.

If you think you may look older than everyone else in that age group, that's how you may feel when you meet your younger love match and spend time with their younger friends. You may get used to it or the physical signs of age will vanish if you are creating a true love match.

2. You can meet club members during video chats

Only 20 percent of any written communication is comprehended. In a video chat, you also experience the other 80 percent because you're hearing the sound of voice, you're seeing facial expressions and body language during your get-acquainted conversations.

3. You will meet singles in person during special events and travel vacations

When you meet face-to-face, you instantly see a person's level of fitness, health and happiness.

Meeting singles by video or in live club activities means that you never have to go on another blind date. With this ageless, timeless spirit in online dating, you won't make the mistake of shutting the door on your great love or travel partners because of age.

And if you're single and seeking to meet your great love, I invite you to enjoy an ageless-timeless search during your free, one-month membership in the Singles Club Of Tribe Of Blondes. Not a hair color, it's a resilient, optimistic spirit that unites us and fuels our passionate choices and personal triumphs.

The Singles Club was created by author, Hadley Finch--a real-life Carrie Bradshaw who writes about love and relationships. Hadley's articles, podcasts and novel, TRIBE OF BLONDES, are inspired by her online dating adventures in 3 continents and 200 blind dates after her long marriage ended in divorce.

By Hadley Finch

Welcome the Dating Coach - The New Super Hero of 21st Century Online Dating

2009-07-14T15:55:00.000-07:00

The Online Dating Industry is exploding with millions of new members joining every single day. It is estimated that within the next five years, almost 50% of all single adults will use Online Dating Services to meet other singles!

As more and more people use online dating services and dating agencies to help them find their Soulmates, a new specialty service has emerged in the form of an Online Dating Coach. While the online dating sites compile your personal information so they can do the matchmaking, a Dating Coach works directly with the clients to help them establish and develop the relationships which start within the agency. A Dating Coach has the responsibility of helping clients effectively market themselves on the dating site. Essentially, an Online Dating Coach provides personal coaching services to clients so they can put their best foot forward in making contact with the other dating site members.
An Online Dating Coach is a dating specialist who, after interviewing and working with a client and using special coaching assessment tools, will help the client put his or her thoughts, feelings, and values on paper (so to speak) and in doing so create the client's Online Dating Profile which will be seen by the other members.

In addition to this, an Online Dating Coach will help his clients see how their thoughts and feelings are affecting their dating matches, and will offer guidance and feedback to enhance the client's likelihood of success. In many cases, a Dating Coach's clients have been away from the single marketplace for a good number of years. Therefore a bit of rehabilitation is helpful for some clients as a way to familiarize them with 21st century dating practices. A lot has changed in the world of dating in the past ten or twenty years - indeed, even in the past five years have dating rituals evolved!

A Dating Coach usually works by phone, and typically, weekly or twice-a-week telephone coaching sessions are scheduled at the convenience of the client, sometimes after work and occasionally on the weekends. At the beginning of the coaching process, a Dating Coach will do an initial assessment to get the larger picture of what's occurred in the client's personal life. During that assessment, the client's personal values are mined through a series of open-ended questions. This interview sets the stage for the effective coaching sessions that follow.

Ongoing coaching sessions with a Dating Coach may be as simple as meeting by phone for an hour to discuss the men or women you've dated over the past week, or they may become as intricate as having your Dating Coach listen carefully while you practice flirting with strangers, or role playing to get ready for "the big night out."

Perhaps the most important aspect of selecting a Dating Coach is investigating their professional academic credentials. You'll want to make sure that your Dating Coach has been professionally trained of course. A Dating Coach who has a background in Psychology or Social Work (if not both) can be very helpful in drawing out the qualities of a client's personality that he or she may not even be aware of themselves. The Dating Coach can then help the client express themselves so their dates have the benefit of their true feelings and personality. As a simplistic but illustrative example, shyness in a person is often mistaken for conceit. The person who seems unfriendly is often just bashful, but this quality may lead to a misunderstanding - especially on a first date. A properly trained Dating Coach can resolve this type of issue by helping the client compensate for his or her shyness and even make it work in their favor.

As with any form of counseling, when you seek the assistance of a Dating Coach, be objective but also look within so you choose someone who sincerely wants to help you. The more your Dating Coach is willing to work with you as his client, the more committed he is to providing the service he's promised. At the very least, the service of a Dating Coach will help you learn more about yourself and make you more comfortable with the personality you express to the world. Since a large part of dating is your wish to feel good about yourself through the companionship of another, just feeling better about yourself overall will make your life richer for having had the experience of being coached. And feeling better about yourself can easily lead you to the relationship you've been dreaming about - and the reason you joined that dating service in the first place!

By Jay Reiss

Top 8 Myths About Online Dating

2009-07-12T23:21:00.000-07:00

A number of myths about online dating exist even though we use the internet to do virtually anything under the sun. Let's take a look at the top 8 myths vs facts:

1. Myth: The online dating world is full of weirdo's.

Fact: No ,not anymore. Maybe that was true in 1995 when almost 50% of the web was full of weirdos. Now a days real legitimate people with real legitimate objectives use online dating just because it saves so much time.

2. Myth: Every man there is trying to catch girls to feature on his porn site.

Fact: The same stats about 1995 hold here.

3. Myth: The girls there are fat, stupid and ugly and they are there because they cannot get a date in the real world.

Fact: No , the girls are usually hot, intelligent and pretty cool. They are there because they are over the bar scene. Most people after a certain point of time come to develop a love-hate relationship with bars and clubs. Clubs are ok, but people don't consider them as the sole option for meeting somebody. So they come online to carry on their search.

4. Myth: It's awkward asking somebody out without knowing that person.

Fact: It's actually quite thrilling because there is a lot of anticipation involved. If you have ever been on a blind date(good or bad) you know the feeling I am talking about.

5. Myth: It's not safe.

Fact: Look.. if you are searching for your soulmate in the erotic services section of craigslist, then it's not safe. But most of the well-known dating sites have very strict regulations these days and are continuously refining their policies to wean out shady characters. So you are in good hands if you sign up with one of these major players. They take care of your safety because it's tied to their reputation.

6. Myth: It's too expensive.

No! over a period of 6 months, it will cost you around 16.99 per month. That's just 16.99 to contact virtually unlimited number of people anywhere in the universe. How much do you spend on an average night out?

7. Myth: I cannot write very well, so it's not for me.

Most people that are out there trying to show off their writing skills end up in the dirt. The space provided to express yourself and your wants is quite small and if you can churn out a few funny lines, it usually takes care of the deal. You will beat out the autobiography/resume writers by a fair mile.

8. Myth: I still prefer meeting somebody face to face.

In internet dating, you still have the option of meeting face-to-face. You are not going to continue exchanging e mails for the next 10 years. Unless of course you have certain fantasies about long distance relationships which you don't wanna tell me.

The net actually takes away the awkwardness of meeting face-to-face from the get go . Also you know that the other person is looking out for somebody too. So no more "I have a bf/gf", or "I have a kid" issues. As you know, they suck!

By Kaushik Guha

Dating Tip: Getting a Commitment

2009-07-12T16:25:00.000-07:00

A lot of women want to know how to get a man to commit.

Even though we know better, we still believe (consciously or subconsciously) that our purpose in life is to get a man to fork over a two-carat diamond and a house in the suburbs. At the dawn of 2006, this is still perceived as the pinnacle of success for women.

As a result, too many of us stay in relationships that don't make us happy. We tell ourselves that if we say the right thing, do the right thing, buy the right thing, we can get some guy to marry us and validate us in the eyes of our friends, our parents, and society.

We play games with our sexuality. We submit to unnecessary surgeries and wear clothing that make us candidates for pneumonia, all in an effort to hook a man. We have sex not because it's what we want, but because we want to keep a guy's interest. We stop having sex when he doesn't come forth with a ring because, as our mothers told us, "Why buy the cow when the milk's free?"
And, in the end, it usually doesn't work. We don't get the commitment. We wonder why, deep down inside, we are ultimately unlovable.

The reason for it is simple. We don't love ourselves. Heck, we don't even own ourselves. We dress, act, speak, and have sex to please (or manipulate) others. The fact that, at the tail end of 2005, we still use expressions like, "Why buy the cow when the milk's free," is astonishing.

You are not a cow. You are a woman. You will attract a man who will gladly, eagerly commit to you when you start believing that you have a bigger purpose in life than getting married.

This means you:

- Dress for yourself, not for someone else.

- Stop postponing doing things you want to do because you think you need a guy to do them with (or that you have to "check with" your boyfriend first).

- Stop waiting for some guy to commit to you. If he says he's not ready, do yourself a favor and back off. Stop being taken for granted. Make plans that don't include him (this will do one of two things; either he'll realize he can't live without you, or you'll realize he definitely can).

-Have sex when it's right and because you enjoy it. Don't use (or not use) your body to "get" a man.

In other words, get a life. Love yourself. Treat yourself as a treasure that has yet to be discovered.

There are plenty of tricks you can use to hook a man, but they usually involve manipulation, deceit, and the loss of yourself. And, while they usually don't work, it's worse when they do. Women who used them tend to be divorced or miserably married today.

So, make a commitment to yourself. Be true to yourself. Value yourself. You will send a signal to men that you are special, different, and worth their time and effort.

One of those men will prove to be worth your time and effort, too.

By Terry Hernon MacDonald

Trust and Be Trustable - Step 2 to Succeed in Relationships

2009-07-10T16:07:00.001-07:00

Are you finding it hard to have "trust" in your relationships? Discover how to break that negative cycle and find ways to break the fear of trusting your mate.

Give your trust to another person and they will trust you. As soon as you are distrusting, you will find others distrust you.

When we are born, we trust our mother and/or father. We really have no other option other than to trust until given profound reason not to trust. And as children we reestablish trust again very quickly. We trust that we will breathe, until we have an allergic reaction to something and cannot. We trust that our fingers will move, until we experience not being able to. In all these cases, our trust is quickly restored as soon as healing occurs.
I have heard people say that Trust is Earned. Believe me this is not the case. If trust is earned, and is given only when received, then stalemates will continue to occur in relationships. Trust is a gift and when given, it is received. I have toyed with this trust is earned concept and it was completely exhausting to keep track of who or what had earned my trust versus who had not. It was much simpler to give my trust freely.

Also trust in SELF is ABOVE ALL most critical when taking on the giving and receiving of trust. You must trust your intuition, your instincts - there are situations where trust cannot be given willingly. F or example if your wellbeing or life is being compromised in some way, then certainly, trust yourself to make the right choice. So, to give or gift trust is a choice. You can choose at any given moment given your gift of intuition and instinct.

People are human and will do things to cause you to question trust. It is up to you what you do with the relationship once you feel that trust has been questioned or breached. If you do not address the situation, then you are avoiding dealing with the person directly and ensuring you are not taken for granted going forward in that relationship. Most often than not, what was interpreted to be a breach of trust is really your interpretation of a situation versus what the other person(s) was interpreting or intending.

Humans never see things exactly the same way and it is only through dialogue that understanding can occur. I said understanding, I did not say agreement. Understanding is a place where Trust can exist, mutually. So, when you take the time to understand that TRUST is implicit, until you are the one that chooses to remove it...AND that in order to understand, you must dialogue and seek to understand before interpreting...then and only then can you trust and be trusted.

So, get out there and start having the conversations that you need to be having such that you TRUST yourself enough to know that NO-THING can happen to you by giving your trust.

By Dr.Darshana Hawks

Dating Advice: Love Shouldn't Hurt

2009-07-08T15:42:00.000-07:00

"Because when pain has been intertwined with love and closeness, it's very difficult to believe that love and closeness can be experienced without pain." -Gloria Steinem, "Revolution from Within."

If you tend to attract men who disappoint you (by cheating on you, not showing up when they say they will, or just refusing to get off the couch), you may be confusing love with pain.

So many of us have been brought up to believe that pain is normal, even expected, in a love relationship. Without it, the relationship seems flat, boring. We crave drama. (Why is it that so many women have great sex after a fight with a significant other?)

A happy, loving relationship eludes us because we don't recognize it when we see it, or because we simply believe it's not possible (News Flash: According to a recent Today Show, all men lie. All of them! I wasn't aware that men have a monopoly on lying or other bad behavior. I know some women who are breathtaking liars. Don't you?).

According to the media, men are incapable of remembering birthdays, being monogamous, getting through a weekend unless they're transfixed before a marathon of football games. Women internalize these messages: That's the way men are. That's the way life is. Get over it.

And while the media is happy to sell us the myth of the unattainable happy relationship, some of us have come to believe in it because of our own experiences.

Some of us:

(a) Had parents who treated each other indifferently, (b) had parents who outright hated each other, (c) had fathers who ignored us as children, (d) had a parent who suffered from alcoholism, (e) had mothers who would rather have been doing something else, or (f) had a parent who suffered from a mental illness.

And so, we learned to associate love with pain. It's all we knew.

Others among us grew up in perfectly happy homes with parents who loved each other and delighted in us, but we still managed to:

(a) Internalize negative messages we heard from our friends' parents who were unhappily married, or

(b) Internalize negative messages we saw elsewhere (I know a woman who, during her impressionable teenage years, babysat for a couple who gave each other the silent treatment and expected her to relay messages. She also babysat for another family, where the father once came home early and started reading a porn magazine!).

As a result of this programming, we set low bars for the behavior we'll accept from boyfriends or husbands. Hey, it's better than being alone, right?

Wrong.

If you're putting up with substandard behavior from men, make decision to stop. Refuse to date anybody until you attract a man who makes your happiness a priority. Trust me; such a man will come into your life and stay there.

Treat him as you have come to expect him to treat you, which means with affection, respect, and consideration. Does this sound boring to you? If it does, please examine your feelings about relationships and see if they haven't determined the kind of men you attract.

You see, once you stop dating men who disappoint you but excite you, you can make room for a guy who loves you the way you deserve to be loved--and who excites you. Love and excitement are important, but if they're accompanied by pain, something's wrong. You'll never be truly happy with a guy who lets you down.

Ask yourself, "Where did I ever get the idea that love has to hurt?"

Give yourself time to come up with the answers. Take stock of whether your relationship is worth saving. If you speak up, will it make a difference? If not, are you willing to make room for a man who will love you and make you laugh instead of cry for a change?

"Because when pain has been intertwined with love and closeness, it's very difficult to believe that love and closeness can be experienced without pain." -Gloria Steinem, "Revolution from Within."

If you tend to attract men who disappoint you (by cheating on you, not showing up when they say they will, or just refusing to get off the couch), you may be confusing love with pain.

So many of us have been brought up to believe that pain is normal, even expected, in a love relationship. Without it, the relationship seems flat, boring. We crave drama. (Why is it that so many women have great sex after a fight with a significant other?)

A happy, loving relationship eludes us because we don't recognize it when we see it, or because we simply believe it's not possible (News Flash: According to a recent Today Show, all men lie. All of them! I wasn't aware that men have a monopoly on lying or other bad behavior. I know some women who are breathtaking liars. Don't you?).

According to the media, men are incapable of remembering birthdays, being monogamous, getting through a weekend unless they're transfixed before a marathon of football games. Women internalize these messages: That's the way men are. That's the way life is. Get over it.

And while the media is happy to sell us the myth of the unattainable happy relationship, some of us have come to believe in it because of our own experiences.

Some of us:

(a) Had parents who treated each other indifferently, (b) had parents who outright hated each other, (c) had fathers who ignored us as children, (d) had a parent who suffered from alcoholism, (e) had mothers who would rather have been doing something else, or (f) had a parent who suffered from a mental illness.

And so, we learned to associate love with pain. It's all we knew.

Others among us grew up in perfectly happy homes with parents who loved each other and delighted in us, but we still managed to:

(a) Internalize negative messages we heard from our friends' parents who were unhappily married, or

(b) Internalize negative messages we saw elsewhere (I know a woman who, during her impressionable teenage years, babysat for a couple who gave each other the silent treatment and expected her to relay messages. She also babysat for another family, where the father once came home early and started reading a porn magazine!).

As a result of this programming, we set low bars for the behavior we'll accept from boyfriends or husbands. Hey, it's better than being alone, right?

Wrong.

If you're putting up with substandard behavior from men, make decision to stop. Refuse to date anybody until you attract a man who makes your happiness a priority. Trust me; such a man will come into your life and stay there.

Treat him as you have come to expect him to treat you, which means with affection, respect, and consideration. Does this sound boring to you? If it does, please examine your feelings about relationships and see if they haven't determined the kind of men you attract.

You see, once you stop dating men who disappoint you but excite you, you can make room for a guy who loves you the way you deserve to be loved--and who excites you. Love and excitement are important, but if they're accompanied by pain, something's wrong. You'll never be truly happy with a guy who lets you down.

Ask yourself, "Where did I ever get the idea that love has to hurt?"

Give yourself time to come up with the answers. Take stock of whether your relationship is worth saving. If you speak up, will it make a difference? If not, are you willing to make room for a man who will love you and make you laugh instead of cry for a change?

By Terry Hernon MacDonald

Getting Dating Advice

2009-07-07T15:43:00.001-07:00

Dating can be daunting whether you are a serial dater or someone who has been out of the dating scene for quite a while, and that is why dating advice can prove so invaluable. It can help you with choosing venues, tips on they type of conversation you can make, as well as what to wear.

Good dating advice will also offer suggestions on keeping yourself safe when meeting people for the first time.

Basically, it can give you the confidence that everything is in place to ensure that your dating experience will be a good one. It can discuss the differences between men and women when it comes to romance and relationships as well as things like dating etiquette.

Good advice includes looking at the bad times and not just the good times, giving you a true perspective on dating.

Dating advice can come from a wide range of places and the more research you do, the better! You can speak to your friends, read books on the subject and can use the internet.

In fact, the internet is a good place to start. There are literally dozens of reputable friendship and dating websites and many offer free advice, guidance and tips on dating, relationships, love, sex and romance. You can also browse the many forums on these sites for really personal, honest advice and experiences from their members. After all, the advice will be from people who have experience of dating.

On line dating and friendship sites also offer fun resources too, such as dating quizzes and many have experts whom you can ask questions of.

Dating and meeting new people can be great fun and if you are armed with knowledge, the whole experience can be even better.

So, if you are looking for good dating advice, you know where to start!

By Jason Hulott

Dating Someone New - 3 Steps to See If You Are Ready to Start a Relationship With a New Person

2009-06-30T22:18:00.000-07:00

How will you know when it is time to begin dating again? If you are a baby boomer and have been out of the dating scene for many years, you may be wondering if you will ever be ready to take that step and meet the right person again.

As we get older our lives become much more complicated. Dealing with work, raising children, caring for elderly parents, and thinking about our own health and retirement can be overwhelming under the best of circumstances. But you owe it to yourself to get on with your life and find that special person to share your life with. Here are some ways to get started if you are not sure you are ready for a new relationship.

* Find someone of the opposite sex, who is also single, to go with on a practice date one evening. Tell this friend that you want to start dating again and that you want to see what the experience will feel like. You can go to dinner and a movie and just get a feeling for what it is like to be alone with someone in this type of setting.
* If this feels right to you, ask your friends to suggest someone who may be available and interested in going on a date. Your friends are usually more than happy to set you up with someone they think would be right for you.
* Don't go too quickly. Think about the qualities you would like in a new person, and write them down. This gives you an opportunity to quantify the traits and characteristics of the person you may want to share your life with.

If you are serious about wanting a new relationship, you will know it after you have taken the steps I have listed above. You will know because of the way you feel. Always think about how you are feeling and let that be your guide to starting a new relationship of any kind.

By Connie Ragen Green

3 Most Important Things You Must Do Around a Girl to Make Her Like You Instantly - Stunning Tips

2009-06-23T15:15:00.000-07:00

It's not always about being cool and collective when it comes to the matter of getting girls to like you. It takes much more than you can possibly imagine. Girls are hard creatures to please and in order to get the kind of results you desire out of them you need to act and react in a certain way. There are some very little known secrets out there using which you will be able to make any girl like you. Read on to discover what these secrets are and achieve earth shattering results using them fast........

Don't be impressed too easily- This is the first thing you must do if you really want a girl to like you or develop liking for you. Women always run after men who are hard to please and often are hard work. If you are too easily impressed she would instantly lose all attraction towards you because then you become a very easy catch for her.

Stop trying to entertain her rather let her entertain you- This is the same concept as don't chase her down rather let her chase you. There is always a giver and a taker in the relationship. Often men are the givers and women are the takers but when you switch places you instantly become a rare breed whom women desperately desire.

Do what you want and be on the driver's seat- This is the most important aspect of getting a girl to really like you. You must be on the drivers seat at all times. You must be the driver of the whole thing and you must have the controls in your hand. You see once the girl gets your controls she will drive you and might as well reject you eventually.

What you don't know yet- Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman's mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don't want men to know but you absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to discover 9 most "Shocking Secrets" women don't want men to know.

By Pushpa Pal Singh

Online Dating - 8 Sizzling Tips To Make Your Profile Standout!

2009-06-21T20:16:00.001-07:00

We know one of the hardest part of creating your profile is describing yourself to others. Dating pearl.com gives you the freedom to define & express yourself so you can put your best foot forward. Following are some time tested nuggets that can assist you in creating a compelling & attention grabbing profile.

Honesty is the Best Policy

As the saying goes, honesty is the best policy. Honesty is taken seriously at Dating pearl.com and it's the single most important thing to remember when writing a great profile. It's much easier to write about yourself if you are honest about who you are. It prevents you from having to spin ways to best sell yourself or guess at what you think other people want to read.

A major part of being honest is not misleading people down the road. People will assume that what you write is true — and you don't want to set people up for a surprise later by stretching the truth in your profile. For example, if you hate mountain climbing, don't say you love it just to grab the eye of an outdoorsy type.

Give Some Thought Of What Sets You Apart.

How are you different? What gives you your unique character? If your friends were describing you, what would be the three things they would all say about you? These are good questions to ask yourself as you get ready to write your profile.

Put Your Negativity Aside

Often times, people start their ad off with, “I’m sick of … !”, “ I’m tired of…!” or “ I hate Brunette…!” etc. It’s advisable not to include this as the first thing that you want to express in your profile ad. It just gives the impression of too many unhealthy relationships in the past. Instead, try to be more positive & upbeat in your profile. Soon enough you will notice a leap in the response rate.

Stay Open & Be Conversational.

Leave formality at the door and write your profile like you are talking to a good friend. Of course, there are some things you might tell a good friend that you probably don't want to include in your profile. It's a good idea to avoid mentioning past relationships and exes, or discoursing on being lonely or desperate. Be optimistic!

Show How, Don't Tell.

The best profiles show, don't tell, who you are at your best. If you are known for being funny, try explaining how or why you are funny - such as, "I've been known to show up to a party in a wig", instead of "I have a good sense of humor." Paint a picture in their minds of the kind of person you are.

A Picture is Worth a Thousand Words

The importance of this point can’t be emphasized more. Your smile, the background that you're photographed in, what you're wearing; they all paint a picture of what you're truly like. And including a recent photo will get you 800% the attention.

Updating Your Profile Often.

Keep your profile fresh. Every now and then, go back to your profile and update it to let people know you're still out there.

Go Through Your Spelling & Grammar.

Check your profile for typos and spelling mistakes before you submit it. Show that you spent time thinking about them while writing your profile. Always proofread your ad & run it through a word processor, such as Microsoft Word so that you can have your spelling & grammar checked.

By Amanda Lee

3 Secrets For a Mind Blowing First Date

2009-06-17T15:33:00.000-07:00

You have just met someone really great. They seem to like you too. You feel wonderful! Now comes the pressure - the first date. You are assaulted by various fears. Where do I take her/him? How do I dress? What do we talk about? Should I seem interested or should I hold back? Will they like me? What if it all goes wrong? Here are some secrets on putting your fears to rest...

Secret One - they are more interested in themselves than you.

This is not a bad thing. It is only natural that people are tied up in their own lives and problems. They know a lot more about themselves than about you. They will use this as a point of reference when relating to you. Take a keen interest in what's happening in their life. This allows you to relax and sit back while they fill you in on themselves and their problems. People love to talk about themselves and they love someone who listens to them even more.

Secret Two - focus on your self-talk.

When on a first date, listen to your inner voice and make sure it is projecting a positive attitude. When you meet your date, say to yourself "She/he likes me." Talk to your date inside your head as though they could hear you. Say things like "You really are having a great time, aren't you?" or "you really feel comfortable with me, don't you?" Although they can't hear anything, your self talk is boosting your ego and making you feel more relaxed and confident. You will be amazed at the difference this will make.

Secret Three - mistakes happen.

Don't be too concerned when things go wrong eg. you get lost on the way to your dates house or you call him/her by the wrong name. Realize you made a mistake and move on as quickly as possible. If you focus on something you did wrong it will only draw attention to it. Often you can dissolve something by simply laughing. They will see your lighter side and it will make them feel more relaxed. Remember, nobody's perfect.

The most important thing when going on a date is to remember to have fun. Don't take it too seriously. If things don't work out the way you want them to, learn from the experience and move on. Remember - nothing ventured, nothing gained.

By Eric Gibson

Online Dating - What Should You Say on Your First Contact?

2009-06-16T17:41:00.001-07:00

It is important and comforting to remember that whatever dating site you join everyone on the site is very much in the same boat as you. They are all single adults, and they are all looking to make a connection. In sales terms they would be termed a warm prospect, meaning that they are ready to read and maybe respond to your contact. All you have to do is send them a message. However it needs to be a message that will make the other them write back.

Your first message to a potential date should be friendly, and without revealing any personal details should give an impression of your personality, interests, and background. You can also ask them to read your profile. but don't stop at that, it is better to give some tidbits right there in the message. You should also take one or two things from their profile to indicate that you may have some interests or things that you both share.

Without being to clinical you should treat yourself as a product, and your first contact is your sales pitch. So interest you potential date and make them want to make that return contact. Include a call to action, that is ask them to reply or ask them to look at your profile. Try to include a bit of humor don't be too dry and factual.

Of course, there is no correct way to approach this, but following the above guidelines will go a long way to making your first contact successful. Good luck, I hope this helps some of you to overcome that first hurdle.

By Tony Kitson

Online Dating - How to Write a Profile That Attracts Your Perfect Match

2009-06-16T17:39:00.000-07:00

It can be a daunting prospect, sitting in front of your computer screen thinking about how you should present yourself in the best possible way. Especially if you are not used to writing and cant think of the fist thing to say. However if you follow a few guidelines and rules, you should end up with a profile that attracts the right person.

1. Don't lie - Whilst it may be tempting to lie in your profile, just remember that your goal is eventually to meet the person that will read it, and any fake things you may write could end up spoiling what could have been a promising relationship. If you lie you will always get caught and disappointed with the result.

2. Try to be original - Originality and creativity in your profile will make it a profile someone will remember. Even though your profile may not say anything discouraging, it may just be dry and boring, that could be as big a turn off as writing negative points about yourself. Try to let your personality shine through, be friendly and natural. Whilst we are not looking for literature, you want to let the person reading the profile get to know you a bit, try to avoid cliches like 'moonlit walks on the beach' etc. Who actually does that stuff anyway.

3. Do not narrow down the field too much - Remember if you identify too many specific requirements, they can end up seeming like demands, and may turn away the very person who is the right match for you. Be careful to word things as preferences and not must haves, unless they really are must haves.

Remember writing a profile is a lot like writing a resume, You want to give enough information to get peoples interest but leave enough room for questions so that they will want to contact you. Remember that first contact is where the fun begins.

By Tony Kitson

5 Types of Women Most Men Do Not Want to Date

2009-06-14T18:40:00.001-07:00

1. The Gold Digger -- Men want women that love them for who they are not for what they are or how big their bank account or homes are. It is a well-known fact that money cannot buy you happiness and men certainly know that trying to buy your affection is a never-ending game that they don't want to play.

2. The Nagging Expert -- If you enjoy nagging or constantly complaining about what he failed to do, or what he should be doing or you or himself, then you will be a lonely woman. Men will run as far away as they can from you.

3. The Drama Queen -- Do you love to create a scene in public over things that you could handle in the privacy of your home? Or do you grab your man and enjoy getting physical with him when he makes you angry? If you lose your cool over small stuff, then you most men will avoid dating you.

4. Ms. Forever Right -- If your motto is, "My way or the highway", then I have bad news for you -- men will not want to date you. To be happy in life you have to understand that your way is not the only right way to do things.

5. Ms. All Men Are Dogs -- If your mom or sisters brought you up to believe that all men are dogs, and as a result you have trouble believing anything men that want to date you say to you. When men sense that you are the type that constantly has negative things to say about the male species, you are bound to chase them away from you.

The key to attracting a lot of men around you is for you to be a pleasant, understanding, accommodating, caring person who knows and respects other points of view. If you judge men by the content of their character rather than the contents of their wallets you will have a lot of men waiting their turn to date you.

By Steve Ubah

Dating Risks - Don't Underestimate the Hazards of Online Dating - It Could Happen to You

2009-06-10T17:25:00.000-07:00

The biggest advantage of online dating is that it expands the "pool" of highly compatible potential dates that you would otherwise never come across. Many people have busy life styles, very narrow circle of friends or dislike the bar scene and internet dating seems like the easiest and most convenient way for them to seek " the significant other".

Besides the undeniable advantages of online dating there are certain dating risks that come with it.

1. The first and foremost risk is not knowing your date. Let's not forget that online dating starts "online", and not " offline", "face-to-face" which is far more natural. The question of physical attraction and chemistry remains unresolved until the first date in person. But the biggest drawback is that you never really know who the person at the other end of the online communication is. People use old pictures, twisted facts about their personal and professional life, tailored interests and hobbies, great personality characteristics which are not real. Why? In the more innocent cases simply to increase their odds of being appealing to members of the opposite sex. In other cases people might have more dishonest ulterior motifs.

Dating online means getting involved with a stranger, with someone unknown and that always hides a potential danger. Emotions run high and often cloud our good judgment in dating online because the true image of the person of interest is not thoroughly revealed and this is where your imagination starts to run wild and see him as "the one". However you should not let your guard off before you background check your date. Be aware of the dating risk involved and keep in mind that the best way to solve a problem is to prevent it.

2. The second major dating risks is the motivation of different people to start dating online. Let's say you background checked your date and he has a spotless past. He gave you all the right information about himself and is indeed knowledgeable and funny as he stated in his ad. However you are looking for true love, for serious commitment and he is looking simply for sexual pleasures. Many people use online dating sites as a venue for their worldly needs , as a new inexpensive way of finding sexual partners. Others that we would label " gold diggers" are in search of financial stability and more luxurious future.

There is also a small group of online daters that are really willing to meet new people but they are still recovering from break-ups or divorces and are not really available emotionally . In their case the online sites turn into a source of rebound partners. One of the biggest dating risk is that you and your partner might not be on the same page when it comes to relationships, that you might be led to the dating game by different motifs. And that always brings disappointment in the end.

Online dating risks exist and are a part of the game. Since you are getting involved with unknown individuals, you must equip yourself with the necessary protection. Be cautious, always background check your date first and don't allow emotions to cloud your good judgment.

By Irena Bocheva

Is That Free Dating Site Really Completely Free?

2009-06-09T16:23:00.000-07:00

After searching through various supposedly free dating sites I noticed that many of them had the same thing in common. They really weren't completely free! Many people who start these online dating sites find that the best way to market their site is to mislead people into thinking the website is free to get them to join. What you normally get that's free is a free profile or basic membership. This membership limits you from contacting other members unless of course you're willing to fork over your credit card information.

Most dating websites that are completely free will use the terms 100% free, completely free, totally free, or absolutely free all over their website. It doesn't make much sense to hide the fact that you're dating site is free if you want people to join. When it does state this on the dating site, make sure they're not referring to women who join because many dating sites give completely free memberships to women but make the men have to pay for their membership. Make sure the website says completely free for "everyone" prior to joining.

One thing that most free dating sites don't have is an affiliate program. Those that do often pay very small commissions such as $.50 or $1.00 for each person that joins. Search the bottom of the supposedly free dating site you want to join and see if you can find a link that says "affiliates" or "make money" which is usually on the bottom navigation. If they do have an affiliate program that pays $10 or more chances are you're dealing with a paid dating site.Another thing you should be looking for besides the link to their affiliate programs is a link to their membership fees. If you do find this link that's a clear giveaway that your supposed free membership really isn't totally free.

Occasionally, you may run into a dating website that's impossible to tell whether its free or not. While this is rare, some dating webmasters want to remove all signs of a paid dating site until you've finally joined. This way they can easily lure you in and then charge you once you've found somebody you're really interested in. If you really want to be sure if the dating site you're joining is completely free the easiest way to do this is to contact the webmaster of the dating sites. Make sure to ask them if "all" their features are free to members and not just some of them. The more clear you are the more likely they will give you an honest responses.

By Greg Davidson

Dating Background Check - How Does it Help in the Pursuit of Love?

2009-06-08T22:53:00.000-07:00

How can a dating background check help in the pursuit of love? Most members that sign up for the online dating sites already have a specific idea of the type of person they are looking for: age range, looks and body type, career choice and average income,level of financial reliability, interests and hobbies, general personality characteristics and even the astrological sign. Dating background check can help you get answers to many of the questions you might have concerning your date. To be more specific :

1. Marital status and kids. Background check can help reveal important bits of information that are sometimes concealed such as whether or not the potential date is married or has kids. Surprisingly many married people enter online dating sites in search of extramarital activities and new sexual experiences. The presence of legal spouse, unfinished divorce or legal separation should act s a warning sign. After all nobody wants to waste time on somebody who is not 100% single or emotionally available. As far as children go, people who are not ready to take the responsibility of kids can find this information extremely important.

2. Financial stability. If you are at a stage of your life when the reliability of the person next to you is extremely important, then his credit history, property records, gaps of employment, filings of bankruptcies and foreclosures can answer many of your questions

3. Criminal history. Background check can show you criminal records ranging from misdemeanor and traffic violations to domestic violence, DUI and felony. Nothing raises the red flag more than these black spots in somebody's history. The main concern is to determine if these were youthful mistakes or an ongoing issue with criminal activities. No matter what the case was you still have the right to know who you are dating

A dating background check cannot guarantee that a relationship will blossom and work over time. However it can minimize your chances of wasting time on somebody that will turn into a disappointment

By Irena Bocheva

How to Tell Your Parents You Are Dating Someone From Another Religion Or Race

2009-06-08T20:55:00.000-07:00

Wouldn't that be really scary?

Imagine going home one day and telling your parents that you've fallen in love and are planning on getting married. Now that would be really great news for you and the family, only for one thing though...

The person you want to marry is from another religion, race or that they're an atheist?!

What actually made me think of this question is that recently in the news, I have seen a lot of news about inter-racial and inter-religious marriage

Sometimes personal experiences or outright prejudice make parents refuse their children dating, not even marrying someone who's not from their race or religion.

If you are in this situation, what do you do? Here's a few suggestions:

1. Tell them on time

Your parents need to know on time that you dating someone from another religion or race so that before you actually get married, they'll have gotten used to the fact. Simply arranging to get married and springing a surprise on your family will make them kick against your idea and spoil your plans.
2. Be ready to stick to your guns

Yes. This one is important.

Its your life and how you rum it is best known for you. If you love that someone and your family wont accept him/her, yet you want them anyway, be ready to insist. It helps if already in your home you are seen as hotheaded and insistent.

So you have to brave the consequences and follow your heart, not your head. It won't be easy though.

Those people who are not like us are considered to be the dregs of humanity that are "unclean". It is not rightly so. We are all one and anyone ought to date or marry anyone they see fit.

So go for love as long as it's true. It always wins.

To those of you who are religious and racist, would the introduction of a future son or daughter in law who's 'not as they ought to be' be worse than the worst that's ever happened in your life already? It cant possibly be.

So chill and give these two young people a chance at making good with love.

By Femi Omopari-Iwa

Fun Dating 101

2009-06-04T16:14:00.000-07:00

Gone are the days when dates only consisted of formal clothing, romantic dinners and a peck on the cheek as you say goodnight. Even going to the movies are getting to be a bit of a bore. While most women will appreciate those, it won't be enough to make them swoon.

Here are some new (and uncommon) ways of going out on a date:

1. Comedy clubs. Undoubtedly, one of the main reasons why you are on a date is to have fun together. So why not go to a place where laughter surely abounds?

2. Paintballing. This may not go for some girls, but if you go for the fun-loving, crazy, adventurous gal, this is perfect. Sure, you initially need a group for this one. But the adrenaline rush would just be mind-blowing that you may be talking about this immediately after or even months after the date.

3. Go to a shooting range. If your date is addicted to guns, then this will be a blast for both of you. This is especially recommended for the date who just broke up with her ex.

4. Bowling. Whether she's an expert bowler or not, this is a great way to show off your, ahem, muscles. It's also a great way to laugh at each other's blunders without being offensive. Definitely a great conversation piece while having some grub after the match.

5. Take a trip to the beach. You can do a lot of things: Sit by the water and watch the waves, play with water, build - or be - a sandcastle, collect seashells. Some beaches offer wind surfing and other water activities your date may enjoy.

There are some things to consider though:

1. Take to heart your date's interests. If she's adventurous, then there may not be a problem. But if she's a little conservative, then go with the romantic dinner and try to spice it up a little to make it a little informal. Be creative.

2. Try to find out her medical history, specifically any allergies she might have. If you bring her to a zoo and it turns out she's allergic to fur, then you may have to take a detour to the doctor - a memorable date yes, but not exactly fun.

Remember, a modern woman is just like any other living being. She may seem strong and wants to have fun, but she'd definitely love it if someone could watch over her as well. Having fun is the first step. The rest is sure to follow.

By Jaclyn Samonte

Relationships - Based on Love

2009-06-03T16:34:00.000-07:00

Relationships! Relationships! Relationships!

Why are relationships so difficult?

Love! Love! Love!

Respect! Respect! Respect!

Communication! Communication! Communication!

Love, Respect and Communication are all key components necessary for every good relationship. If you were to give all of your relationships a check up right now, what would you find? Are any of the key components missing? Is love evidenced in your relationships as identified in the Message bible, 1 Corinthians 13:4-13:

3 -7 If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don't love, I've gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I'm bankrupt without love.

Love never gives up.

Love cares more for others than for self.

Love doesn't want what it doesn't have.

Love doesn't strut,

Doesn't have a swelled head,

Doesn't force itself on others,

Isn't always "me first,"

Doesn't fly off the handle,

Doesn't keep score of the sins of others,

Doesn't revel when others grovel,

Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,

Puts up with anything,

Trusts God always,

Always looks for the best,

Never looks back,

But keeps going to the end.

8 -10 Love never dies. Inspired speech will be over some day; praying in tongues will end; understanding will reach its limit. We know only a portion of the truth, and what we say about God is always incomplete. But when the Complete arrives, our incompletes will be canceled.

11 When I was an infant at my mother's breast, I gurgled and cooed like any infant. When I grew up, I left those infant ways for good.

12 We don't yet see things clearly. We're squinting in a fog, peering through a mist. But it won't be long before the weather clears and the sun shines bright! We'll see it all then, see it all as clearly as God sees us, knowing him directly just as he knows us!

13 But for right now, until that completeness, we have three things to do to lead us toward that consummation: Trust steadily in God, hope unswervingly, love extravagantly. And the best of the three is love.

If I am honest I must admit that sometimes I do keep track of wrongs. I have not done it intentionally, but isn't that what I do when I remind you that you missed my birthday, instead of accepting your apology and letting it go? Is that my maturity speaking or my childishness, the thing that was supposed to be left behind when I grew up? Wow, I thought I had it together and then God showed me what He has been trying to show me for a long time, to love enough to be patient, kind, understanding and forgiving. My joking about wrongs that were done to me keeps them alive in my head and heart and also in the head and heart of the one I thought I was wronged by. The truth is I had not let it go.

Maybe I am the only one that has gotten this love thing wrong on occasion, but sometimes, I feel like giving up on my relationships and if I am honest, I have threatened to give up, tried to give up and even took a short sabbatical, until I was chastised by my heavenly Father and His servants enough to know I had to go back to work. How does the person I exhibited this behavior to now feel? Can they be secure in my love for them? Can they trust that love not to give up on them when things get difficult? Can they trust that I will be there for them when they need me or are they walking on eggshells waiting for the time when I really will walk away? Sometimes it is because I have tried to deal with my relationships on my own rather than letting God do it.

We mistakenly think that love should be easy, but real love requires work. It requires putting someone else and what they want or desire before your own wants and needs. Real love costs something. It cost your pride, some humility and some silence. Real love will require you to go along when maybe that is not really what you want to do for the sake of the relationship. In relationships it is important to pick our battles. Every battle is not worth fighting and every thought does not need to be shared. The bible tells us so much about what real love is, but I think many of us have gotten caught in the thought that love is a feeling instead of an action. Feelings come and go based on what is happening around us and what the person does or does not do, but real love will cause us to tolerate, put up with, give in, be selfless. The bible says love is patient and kind and does not have to have it's own way. That means when you really love someone you can't be selfish. The question we have to ask ourselves, is what we have been calling love really love or some poor substitute? Love does not manipulate someone else to get it's own way. Love will cause you to give something up that you really want, putting the happiness of the other over your own.

Over the last few years I have gained a whole new view of what love is. What I thought love was is far from real love. Real love causes you to give when you don't feel like it. The thing I grew up calling love was quite the opposite. If you don't do what the other person wants it's not love. Love was used as a bargaining tool and it was withheld if you did not fulfill the desires of the other whatever that might have been. Many have even confused sex with love. While sex is a way to express love, love is not a requirement for sex. In the confusion people have gotten married only to find out later that the marriage did not have a solid foundation. When they really started talking to each other something was missing. If they are honest they may have even determined that not only did they not have love, they did not even have friendship or like. Don't get it confused or twisted. If all you have is sex, that is all you have, it is not love and should not be confused as such. Do you love the person you met last night at the club and went home with, or are you just engaged in fulfilling your lustful desire? It's just a question, but one that needs to be answered if we are really going to define what real love is.

Some of you may be thinking that this is all about a male/female relationship, a husband/wife relationship or a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, but let me assure you that we all have more relationships than just the ones we have with the opposite sex. Check all of your relationships. Give every one of them the love test as described in 1 Corinthians 13 and see how they score. Are there any relationships that you need to work to fix? Is there anyone you need to apologize to even if they do not know what is going on or why you are apologizing? Maybe you made them your sex toy under the guise of a love relationship. The truth is you know that is not what it was and now their life is the worse because of it.

How do I resolve this immature love relationship? How do I fix the mess ups? How do I undo any damage I have done not only to myself, but to someone else? I do it by first asking God to forgive me and then asking the people I have done it to for their forgiveness.

Forgive me God.

Most of my friends would say, no big deal, don't worry about it. I know you were just teasing, etc. Knowing what they will say does not rule out my need to ask for their forgiveness. I must ask for their forgiveness because God has revealed it to me. I have to do it as part of my getting right with Him. It is part of my obedience. It is part of my love for Him and them.

Trust God with all of your relationships. Start by building a loving relationship with Him through His Son Jesus Christ!!! With Him in the center the rest of your relationships will have a better chance. If you have a loving heart, that is motivated by the things that move God's heart it will be a lot more difficult for you to abuse or hurt someone else.

Another question you might ask yourself is, am I giving the kind of love I want to receive. Many times we are receivers of the best that someone else has to offer and we give them some small uncostly piece of ourselves. You know the person that really cared about you and made major sacrifices and all you wanted to do was get as far away from them as you could, but you didn't want to hurt their feelings. The truth is we hurt their feelings by taking advantage of the love they give to us with out giving them anything in return. A real relationship with God will keep you from sucking the life out of someone else by allowing them to give you to much. You might say, well, I can't stop them from giving to me if they want too. The truth is that yes you can. If you see they love you more than you love them, back up a little bit and stop taking things from them even if it is stroking your ego, even if it is stuff you like. The bible says, love is patient and kind. Kindness should not be taken advantage of. A great man once said, your bad behavior will come back to you and it will not be a cross you are bearing, it will be a crop you sowed that you are reaping.

By Angela Willingham

Dating Mistakes

2009-06-02T16:05:00.001-07:00

Dating mistakes can kill a dating relationship. Do you know what dating mistakes you have made? Do dating mistakes hold your relationship back? And, do mistakes like these get forgotten later on? Dating mistakes are simply things that you just don’t do right. To avoid them, though, you have to know what your partner considers a dating mistake.

Open communication is a must and this is often the worst dating mistake you can make. Talk about what you want, need, and expect in your dating relationship. Dating mistakes of this nature often lead to misunderstanding and dating can even end here.

Don’t expect too much, either. Don’t put high standards and expect your dating relationship to survive. Understanding the other person’s need is so important in dating. Don’t underestimate and don’t over estimate your date.

Don’t lie. This dating mistake will leave you out on the street!

Trust your date. If you ever plan to build a relationship, trust must be something you and your date have.

Don’t forget your date’s feelings. The most successful dating relationships are centered on people who always put their date’s feelings ahead of their own.

Dating mistakes can leave you out in the cold. If you are someone who can not over come these dating mistakes, well, just face it, dating is not something you’ll do well. Caring for another person means making sacrifices too. So, dating mistakes like these and others should be taken into consideration for forgiveness as well. Dating mistakes can and will break or make a dating relationship.

By S A Baker

Dating Mistakes You Should Never Make!

2009-06-01T16:30:00.000-07:00

Most guys are sitting around and wondering, why it is so hard to attract beautiful women into their lives. They complain about the dating scene and everything that goes with it. And you know what? That's all they do!

Look, your not going to get the girls by sitting around and complaining about how hard it is! That's the way guys that don't get beautiful women talk. The guys that know what to do and what not to do know that right now, it's more fun than ever!

So, now you want to know the dating mistakes you should never make with women?

Well, here they are my friend:

1. Not having fun with dating. You can look at it as something serious and feel all of the pain, or you can just have a go at it and have fun. That's what it's supposed to be like anyway, so why not try it? Besides ask any woman and they will tell you they want to have fun on a date!

2. Stumbling around looking for the right things to say. Canned lines, thinking too hard about the perfect words, all that does is get you further from what you want. Which is to make her laugh and relax and feel attracted to you.

3. Doing the same things over and over even though you already know they don't work! Why keep putting yourself through the ringer? If it doesn't work ten times or twenty times or how many times you have tried it, stop!

Stop making these mistakes and learn how to make her want you instead!

By Chris Tyler

How To Choose An Online Dating Site

2009-05-27T15:43:00.000-07:00

If you are thinking about looking for a little love on the Internet in the near future then you probably have a whole list of questions and reservations that you need satisfied before putting a profile up on your online dating site of choice. Does it cost you anything? What can you put in your profile? How much personal information do you have to give? How do you search for potential partners? What if you do not like any of the people that respond to your profile? All of those questions will probably make you a little reluctant to join an online dating site, but all of these will disappear as soon as you find the right site to sign up to!

When you do sign up for the first time, online dating can really be a little daunting because you have no idea what you are going to get in return, and everyone is scared of not getting any replies at all. However, you have more pressing concerns before you sign up to a website offering dating services! There are certain things you can look for in a dating service website that can really help to reassure you that you have made the right choice, and it is all about feeling comfortable with your decision after all.

Online dating is a minefield and there are several things you can look for and at to help you to choose the best possible online dating site for you. For example, you could start by looking at the following:

1. The Cost - This is a major factor that you consider when you choose a dating service to sign up for. Almost all of the sites out there do charge a subscription fee, whether a monthly or quarterly one. Some online dating sites are really expensive and the total amount you pay for the service can soon add up. However, there are some that are affordable and yet still provide the great service that you should expect of the more expensive ones. Be wary though. There are some sites that have great offers and benefits for introductory purposes, but some use these to mask their high prices and poor success rates.

2. The Number Of Subscribers - This is usually indicative of how successful a dating site is. Online dating is all about meeting people, but how are you to do that if the current members are inactive? There are numerous reviews available online that will tell you exactly which sites are active and which are not, although you can take a look for yourself. You will be able to tell the good from the bad immediately!

3. The Type Of Dating - Now, this is entirely down to personal choice. What do you do for dating in the real world? Do you go to events? Have you tried speed dating? All of these questions will tell you a little about yourself and how you like to date. All you then have to do is work that little bit of you into the online dating site you choose. If you are outgoing then you may like a site that hosts events both online and offline. If you are shy then speed dating may be for you. If you want a little fun then you could choose any number of sites and get what you are looking for. It is all about the feel of the site as well. Do you feel comfortable using it? If you feel completely at home on there then you may have found the perfect one for you!

4. Accessibility And Security - Finally, no matter what online dating site you ultimately choose, make sure that the site is absolutely 100% secure. There are a few that leave a lot to be desired but the majority have a good security system in place to make sure that nobody can get at your details, including any credit card details and personal details that you want to hide. Online dating is all about fun and it can only be that if you have the peace of mind that you are in control.

When you take all of the above into consideration then you cannot help but find the right online dating site for you! Happiness could be waiting just around the corner for you!

By Paul Steven

Online Christian Dating Services - What Women Are Looking For in a Man?

2009-05-19T14:17:00.000-07:00

More and more Christians (and non-Christians too, of course) are joining online dating services. Some of these people are extremely confident, but many are not. Men in particular are often unsure about how to present themselves, feeling a little confused about exactly what women are looking for.

So here are five top tips for men, based on the views expressed by a group of women.

• Christian women joining a Christian dating service are almost certainly looking for Christian men. This may sound obvious, but, surprisingly, not every man realizes this. Of course, some women join a Christian service because they feel they will meet a man who is solid and reliable, and are less concerned about the strength of his faith. But most women you meet through a Christian dating service will be looking for a partner who is a regular church-going believer.

• Women like guys with a sense of humor. You don't have to crack jokes repeatedly. But make her laugh, and you'll make her feel comfortable with you.

• Can you share your feelings? Women like this. It helps develop a sense of trust, it helps her feel comfortable with you, and it also - perhaps most importantly - makes it easier for her to share her own feeling with you.

• Can you provide a woman with security? You don't have to be a millionaire. But women generally want a man whom they can trust, someone who will look after them, someone they know to be solid and reliable.

• And finally, women do of course like men who look good. This does not mean that you need movie star looks. But it certainly helps your cause that you look clean, healthy and well groomed.

By Martin Roth

Phone Dating - Is it Fit For the Modern Times and the Modern Person?

2009-05-19T14:11:00.000-07:00

Whenever we look around, we get the impression that dating and socializing is common. While this is true, it is also a fact that getting people to date around is not always easy. In fact, when you ask an individual about their dating experiences, a majority would share not happy stories but rather disappointing ones. All these lead to the fact that dating and finding someone great to date is not easy for everyone. While the concept of dating is indeed positive, there should be more ways by which ordinary men and women can be assisted in getting the types of dates they want.

Thanks to technology, we now have various types of help to boost our social lives. With the help of the internet and other communication lines, for instance, we get to meet more people who can be in our dating prospective lineup even if they are miles away from us. With the help of technology, more people are connected, thus, aiding the process of meeting new people and dating. One such example of technological innovation that helps the social life is phone dating. With this type of innovation, people of the present times get to be in touch with more people with simple use of technology.

If you think you need a push when it comes to meeting new people, then phone dating is worth a try. You need not any special equipment as you can make use of this type of dating with simple equipment such as a home phone, a mobile phone or even a PC and an internet connection. The level of communication is entirely dependent on what you choose to use. You get to choose the time, the frequency and the methods that you want to use to interact with others without having to spend unreasonably.

The success of phone dating can be traced back to the fact that it lets individuals meet others without the common pressures of traditional dating. With the traditional way, you need to fit in the set norms while as in the innovative chat or phone dating, you get to be yourself and you can increase your level of socializing based on the pace that you are comfortable at. There is no need to ask for a repeat conversation or repeat talks if you realize the person is not for you. There is no pressure to pretend you like someone you do not. There is no need to feel obliged to contact when you are busy or when you do not feel like it. In the end, you will realize that this type of freedom is very liberating and can lead you to a very satisfactory social life.

Phone dating is indeed fit for the present times and for the modern individuals who do not want their privacies violated. With phone or chat dating, you get to release your borders and barriers one by one at the time you feel best. You get to use a kind of technology that allows you to establish any kind of relationship you want. You can establish friendships, you can seek a long term partner, you can find someone to have fun with, or you can simply choose to warm up some cold nights.

By Stell Dsouza

Don't Know How to Make Him Fall in Love? A Few Simple Tips

2009-05-18T16:01:00.000-07:00

Confused about how to get a guy to fall in love? Have you found the perfect guy but you don't know what to do next? What can a girl do to get a guy to fall in love? Even though guys don't get really serious about relationships very often, when they fall they fall hard. Girls on the other hand, fall all the time, and they don't know how to get a guy to return the sentiment. Can't wait to figure out how to get him to fall in love? Here are some tips to getting him to fall in love.

Don't be too clingy. All guys are terrified of having a woman take over his life. They want to feel like they can do whatever they want for the rest of their lives. Down the road, he'll have to face the music about being responsible, but you never want to make this the case in the first part of a relationship. He knows that when he gets married and has children he'll have to be tied down, but if you start a relationship with that same attitude, he'll think that you are the especially needy type.

He wants to be the man of your dreams! Now, he'll know if you're not being genuine, but make sure that he knows how much you adore him. This is one of the keys to getting him to fall in love. Compliment his body. If you guys aren't intimate yet, then keep it subtle. Tell him you love what he did with his hair, or you like him in those jeans.

Let him be the man. Even if you're a total feminist, guys really need to feel like the man in the relationship. Don't be a doormat, but let him take the lead sometimes. It's not that you should put yourself beneath him, it's just that he needs to feel like the man. That's just the way that they are, and if you'll pick up on this one tip, you'll have more luck in love throughout the years.

You also don't want to hop into bed right away. If you do, he'll think that you aren't looking for anything serious, with him or with any guy, and he won't respect you. Getting him to respect you is key to getting him to think about you as a long-term possibility.

Follow these tips, and you'll be sure to get him to fall in love.

By Tina L. Jones

The Secrets of Love - Get Your Man Hooked

2009-05-18T15:59:00.000-07:00

Did you know that there are secrets of love that will help you get your man hooked? Are you at a loss when it comes to getting a guy to fall for you? Did you know that there are specific things that you can do to increase your chances in love? If a guy finally does fall in love, he falls harder than a woman tends to, because it takes more to get them to fall in love. If you follow these tips, you can get a guy to fall for you, and then he will be hooked. Here are the secrets of love.

The First Secret:

Be Unique. This seems like an easy secret of love, because you obviously are unique, but the trick here is to make him realize that. There aren't as many guys looking for girls as there are girls looking for guys, so you have to do something that makes you stand out of the crowd. If you know a guy that you're interested in, find out something that he likes, and let him know that you like the same things. You don't have to lie; find something that the two of you really have in common.

The Second Secret:

Be beautiful. This starts with feeling beautiful, not necessarily looking just like someone else, so take the time to pamper yourself. Get a new hairstyle that makes you feel attractive. Splurge and go get a pedicure for summer. Try a spray on tan. If your budget is tight, then just get a new lip gloss and some body spray that makes you feel pampered. You don't have to spend a million bucks, and you don't have to look like a super model, but do something that makes you feel like a lady.

The Third Secret:

Be long-term relationship material. How do you do that? For starters, don't jump into bed with a man. If you get physical right away, he won't respect that, and he'll be moving on to someone who he thinks is relationship material. If you get hot and heavy right away, he won't be thinking about introducing you to his parents, and he probably won't be thinking about what a great wife and mother you'd make some day. So hold off on the sex, and let him get to know the real you.

By Tina L. Jones

Be a Master Dater and Attract Any Girl You Desire - Hook Up With Younger Women

2009-05-18T15:53:00.000-07:00

A woman is the one true thing every man desires to have. Sure, we may be just after their looks, youthfulness and gorgeousness, but it all means the same --- we want to be with a woman. They're the one of the most precious things life has to offer. Now, why is it more appealing to hook-up with younger women?

There are some obvious and evident reasons why we get attracted to the younger, fresher, childlike types of women in our lives. Well, that's it: they're young, fresh and innocent! What more can an older guy ask for? Younger women are always far more exciting, thrilling and overwhelming to be with.

But there's good news for you too: younger women find older guys quite attractive and striking as well. And the explanation may totally blow you away --- in a good way. It's not forever about your bank account that entices and tempts the ladies, even though you hardly ever see hot and cute young girls with impoverished old fellows. Come on, let's get real here.

Younger women appreciate and give extreme value with your maturity, skills, knowledge, wisdom, experience and patience. You're at the prime of your life and that alone is intriguing and stimulating their imagination. These girls also get tired keeping up with their usual high school bullies, immature boys and sleazy young jerks. Having an older companion can be quite refreshing. Hey, these girls deserve only the best, and there's a great possibility for them to find inner bliss with older men.

So celebrate your being grown-up, knowledgeable and love your worldly self! Let your years guide the way in satisfying and rewarding yourself through these young hot girls --- your maturity is a turn-on I tell you!

So celebrate your inner grown-up and let wisdom lead the way to fulfilling and fun filled trysts with young babes waiting for you.

By Mark J Hamilton

Free Online Dating Website - Don't Pay For Dating Join Free

2009-05-17T13:56:00.000-07:00

They really wont cost you one cent! When you decide your social life needs some improvement and you would ultimately like to meet someone special, free online dating sites will improve the amount of social contacts available for you to meet and all the while saving you money on alternative social options.

Compare the free sites to the paid sites. There are also many online dating sites that are not free. However you will notice that almost all of the paid sites advertise themselves with many so called free features. Any dating site will allow you to join for free. Simply joining a dating site for free doesn't always allow you to access all the sites features for free. Singles who join online dating sites should be made aware that the paid sites usually have different levels of access depending on what type of membership you purchase.

Dating sites often charge a small subscription for an entry level membership which allows singles to initiate contact with other singles but limiting them to only one or two messages per week. Entry level memberships usually only allow a small amount of time per day for their members to chat in the adult chat rooms and can be very frustrating if your making good head way with someone you fancy only to be cut off because your time allowance for the day has run out. So ultimately, you will be forced to upgrade to an expensive premium membership in order to be able to fully utilize the dating sites features and to have unrestricted access. Until you upgrade to a premium membership you will also have limited access to view other singles profiles.

More singles to choose from. As there are no costs involved with joining a free adult dating site, the single people out there are more eager to give online dating ago. There is simply no down side. There is no risk of getting ripped off and they offer their members a large pool of singles to meet and chat to. There is no limit to the amount of members you can initiate contact with nor is there a rigorous process members need to undertake in order to qualify. Just sign up and unlock the door to a sea of online singles.

Why do we need paid dating sites? In order for the free dating sites to exist, its paramount that the paid dating sites retain a large amount of the market share. Why? By this stage of the article you may have asked yourself how the webmasters of the free dating sites get paid. They make their money by advertising the services of paid sites. When you are browsing a free dating site you will notice adverts that link to paid dating sites. When you click through to these adverts, the free site owners are paid a commission.

Take as long as you like. Other great benefits you get by joining a free site is that there is no pressure to rush in to make the most of your membership without fear of your subscription expiring. Spend as much time or as little time online that suits your lifestyle.

There are few industries openly available for anyone to use for free so take advantage of free online dating and discover how the best things in life are free.

By Matt D Fuller

How to Have Confidence on a Date

2009-05-10T15:41:00.000-07:00

Feeling anxious around her is something troubling. It can keep us from doing some tactics in impressing or maybe seducing our date - be it a learned or practiced tactic. It makes us forget the things that we practiced or some things that we have planned to do. Nothing may happen in your date or it could turn into a total fiasco because of anxiety. Here's a quick tip that will help you reduce that anxiety that you feel towards her.

This is a technique called "Imagine that..."

From the title of the technique, you can almost guess how its done. Yes, this is the time to use your imagination. Simply imagine something specific about her.

For example, If you are square-faced. You can imagine that she's totally attracted to square-faced men. Or if you're wearing a black shirt or polo, try to imagine that its a total "turn-on" to her.

If she is particularly a redhead, imagine that her high school friends or school mates call her "Ginger."

If you notice that she's got some mannerism like adjusting her shirt more often, or fixing her hair with her fingers, run your imagination through them. You can interpret these mannerisms in your own way. So every time she adjusts her shirt could mean she's feeling horny at the moment. Every time she fixes her hair with her fingers could mean that she wanted to attract or seduce you.

But before you get too excited in practicing, applying, or experimenting this powerful technique, here's a reality check:

1. Remember that this is just a technique for you to reduce or avoid anxiety while you are around her. This is designed to boost your confidence. So these visualizations that you will have are for you alone to be aware of. These aren't real in the first place. You wouldn't actually give away your imaginations by calling her Ginger or assuming that she's really into you. So be careful.

2. The above examples are just mere examples. The "Imagine that..." technique will be more effective if you apply it according to your own situation. As what the pickup artist said, "I call it 'Imagine that...' because you have to use your imagination to come up with your own unique visualizations."

Now you have the idea, all you have to do is use it. This technique is very useful not only when you feel anxious towards your date but if you feel anxious to approach a woman.

By Julian Foxx

The Art of Approaching Women

2009-05-10T15:39:00.000-07:00

Every man on the planet should know how to approach women or girls. If you don't, you are missing out on the first step for finding the girl of your dreams and maybe your mate for life. The way you approach a girl can make or break the your chances of having a date or simply just buying her a drink. Hopefully I'll give you an idea or two on how to approach that certain someone special. I've had 20+ years on the dating scene, not to mention a great marriage to a beautiful woman. Yes we are still married after 19 years.

I'm no Romeo or Brad Pitt or what ever, but I know how to play the game. And it is a game. I've seen guys fail and succeed. It all comes down to the way the game is played. And if you get married and have kids you still have to play the game. It's kinda like working out with weights, when you stop....the results stop! Same thing. I am convinced that is why 80 percent of marriages fail, the game stops. My game stopped after 6 years of marriage and divorced was filed at the big number 7. I did get back in before it was final and never looked back. I got back into the game.

Enough of that, let's see how to approach a woman and/or girl -

Ok, Girls are used to getting approached, fact. Picture every other guy in the bar "If that's the case" as white horses" You have to become the one and only black horse in the crowd. You must stand out. I've had 10 times more luck in "Bars" if I did not drink alcohol. I would drink water and chew gum. Sounds kinda dumb, but it put me in the right mind set. Give it a try.

Here's a few short tips on approaching women. Remember guys, they're not monsters...they won't hurt you. "Well some will!"

First - Be confident when you approach them. But not too cocky! They can sense fear.

Second - Try to make good eye contact, but don't stare them down. (And their Blouse is not their eyes!))

Third - Smile. Girls can't resist a great smile and it gives off positive energy. If you don't have a great smile, smile with your mouth shut, but smile- A lot

Approaching women is not hard when you know what to do.

By Chris Kendrick

3 Perfect First Dates Ideas for Building Attraction

2009-05-10T15:38:00.001-07:00

Your first date with a woman is one of the most important steps towards build attraction.

Without mutual attraction and interest, you'll have little chance of going on a future date or building a relationship.

That's why it's vital that you take her to right place on your first date.

Now the one mistake guys make is to appear too overeager by brining women to fancy restaurant or buying her expensive gifts.

By doing this, you're only setting an uncomfortable situation. In addition it does nothing to build attraction.

So to have a great first date where you can build attraction, you should think of places which can provide memorable and fun time. In short you want to go to place where you can establish an emotional and physical connection. Then if you enjoy your date, then you plan a second date which is more traditional- like taking her to a restaurant.

If you're stuck with where to go, then you can use the three first date ideas I've included below:

Perfect First Date Idea #1- Meet for drinks or coffee

Although meeting her for drinks or coffee is a typical idea used by many guys, it still provides an effective environment for getting to know a woman.

When you meet at a place like this, you'll be able to talk n a casual manner without the feeling of pressure like you would at restaurant.

In addition at a bar or coffee shop, you'll be in close proximity to one another which alls you to establish physical contact. So you'll be able to flirt and do things to build attraction.

Perfect First Date Idea #2- Play games

Another great place for a first date is a place where you can enjoy playful games like a video arcade, pool hall, miniature golf, or the boardwalk.

What's great about this idea is you're easing the tension which often happens on the first date. You can enjoy yourself while playfully competing with this woman.

Perfect First Date Idea #3- Get physical

The final first date is to do something which involves engaging in a physical activity. This could be hiking, ice skating or rollerblading.

This is an incredible way to have fun while figuring out if she has an adventurous attitude.

These three first date ideas can be an excellent way to build attraction and rapport. They all provide a fun while avoiding the pressures of the dates which seem more like job interview.

All you have to do is keep things low key and fun. Then you use the fun experience to build towards a second date and quite possibly a long term relationship.

By Scott Patterson

Express Yourself to the Fullest With Totally Free Online Dating Sites

2009-05-03T15:38:00.000-07:00

There is no question that totally free online dating sites have changed the way people date today. The internet has broadened the opportunities for meeting new people. It offers an interesting and exciting way for you to express yourself in a whole new way.

Obviously, the best part about it is that you can meet a plethora of singles without spending a penny. There are countless sites for you to choose from giving you plenty of opportunities to meet singles.

Another benefit to totally free online dating sites is that it allows you to express yourself better. Many people find themselves getting nervous and anxious when talking to someone they do not know. However, talking on the internet is much easier as you are not face to face with the person.

You can loosen up and show people who you really are. This is a great way for you to create a strong bond with someone else. You can open up and let people into your world. In addition to you opening up, it gives you the chance to learn about other people and find someone who interests you.

Unlike other dating settings, you will have the chance to talk to several singles all at the same time. You can read people's profiles and find potentials that have similar qualities and interests as you. From there, you can pursue them and find out who best matches what you are looking for.

Totally free online dating sites have changed the way people date today and it can be just what you have been looking for. Try one out and if it doesn't work out, at least you will have not lost anything from it.

By Christy Thomas

Important Online Christian Dating Tips For Dating a Godly Single Christian Woman

2009-05-03T15:35:00.000-07:00

If you are looking for a way to start dating Christian women the answer may be as close as your computer. These days there are a wealth of online dating sites, including many sites dedicated to dating Christian women. Finding the best of these online Christian dating services will help you find the most attractive and most spiritually successful women in your town or area of the country.

Evaluating an Online Christian Dating Service

Of course not all internet dating sites for Christians are created equal, and it is important to evaluate each site carefully. After all, if your ultimate goal is to start dating Christian women you will need to make sure that there are plenty of single Christian women signed up for the site. It is always a good idea to browse the profiles of the site before signing up. Or, in some cases, take full advantage of a free basic (limited) membership to look around and see if the site features and other members are a good fit for you. In other cases you may be offered some sort of free trial membership, and it is a good idea to accept that trial period if it is offered. This trial period will allow you to determine if the site you have found will be a good venue for dating Christian women in your area of interest.

When evaluating an online Christian dating service for dating Christian women it is a good idea to look through the profiles of the women who are already members, paying careful attention to things like where the women go to church and how often, their level of commitment to Christ and their Christian maturity level. This information will help you to determine whether or not the site is a good one for dating Christian women, or just a secular dating site masquerading as a Christian dating site. Some sites appear on the surface to be a Christian dating site, when in fact the site is just a secular dating site masquerading as a Christian dating service for one reason only, money! Your money!

Joining an Online Christian Dating Service

Once you have found a site that you trust and think will be good for dating Christian women it is time to sign up and start building your own personal dating profile. When creating your profile it is important to be up front and honest about what you want from a Christian dating partner and what you have to offer. Try not to be too self-deprecating or too self-aggrandizing as you build your profile. The Christian women on the site will appreciate honesty--if you plan to start dating Christian women you will need to be honest about both your good qualities and your shortcomings.

Dating a Single Christian Woman Face to Face

After you have submitted your online dating profile and found several matches it is time to actually start contacting them with the goal of dating Christian women face to face. But do not rush things. Take your time getting to know the single Christian women a little better before you meet them in person. These days dating Christian women can take several different approaches. Some men will want to meet their matches in person right away, while others may prefer to get to know their potential dating partners in the virtual world first. No matter which approach you take to dating Christian women it is important to be honest in your conversations, emails and your online dating profile. Post current, unaltered photos. After you have gotten to know one another you will need to determine when to take that all important step of meeting face to face.

Dating a Godly Single Christian Woman

Some men may be intimidated when they start dating a Christian woman, especially if she has been a Christian longer than them, but it is important to be calm, cool and collected on that all important first date. Nervous Christian men may be able to put their minds at ease with the knowledge that they have already gotten to know their Christian lady friend online. Pray for the right approach. After all God knows the two of you better than you know each other.

Remember that Christ is working in all Christians to conform us to the image of Jesus Christ. It is Christ-like character that will ultimately win her heart. Pray for the peace that surpasses all understanding, ask God for the power to just be yourself, and trust in Him for good results. While dating some Christian women can be intimidating at first, in the end it can be extremely rewarding as well. You get the privilege of spending time with a sister in Christ, a precious daughter of the Creator of the universe.

Think of it as dating Christian royalty and treat her like a princess.

By Juliet Klee

Online Dating Services - Three Quick Tips to Success

2009-05-02T17:06:00.001-07:00

Each year many people flock to online dating services in part due to the increasing busy lives that we lead. Love at a click of a mouse seems almost too good to be true, but it helps busy people save time by weeding out prospective matches that do not fall within their criteria.

This article highlights three quick tips to help you meet more people online and be more effective at finding your next love of your life when looking at profiles in online dating services.

Firstly, dispel any sense of insecurity in your thoughts. This would translate into your online profile description. People want passion in relationships so be affirmative and not tentative in descriptions of yourself. Describe a hobby or some interest that you are passionate about and this will shine through to differentiate you from the many people out there.

Secondly, editing your profile from time to time helps you appear as a "new profile". This is a trick that would help you get more page views and attract the relevant person into your life. Spend time taking a good photo for your online profile as most people determine attraction at least at the start based on your perceived looks.

Thirdly, find people who share similar hobbies with yours so that should you go out for a date, you will have some natural things that both of you find passion in doing. So for example if you are a guy and you like outdoor events, look for a girl who loves rock climbing or trekking. This would save you some time trying to be someone you are not.

In conclusion, searching for love online is a journey that requires some sense of wisdom and you should be looking for someone attractive that falls within your own personal criteria. Spend some time exploring the various online dating services and find one that meets you need today. Carpe Diem, the love of your life may come sooner than you expect!

By Joel Teo

10 Tips for Online Dating Safety

2009-05-02T17:03:00.000-07:00

The internet has changed the world of dating both good and bad. Finding romance is now easier than ever. That’s the good news. The bad news, of course, is that with ease also comes an increase in falling prey to dangerous situations. However, the dangers can be lessened or avoided by following some basic safety tips. Here are 10 such safety tips which can help make your online dating experience fun, positive and, above all, safe.

1) Stick with reputable online dating services. Don’t go with a service you’ve never heard of just because it’s free or cheap. Check to see how well they screen their potential members. A dating service which screens their members is often safer than those which don’t.

2) Set up an email account that you use only for dating services or chatting online such as Hotmail, Yahoo, or Gmail. Never use your personal or work email for online dating.

3) Until you really get to know the person, never divulge personal information that will make it possible for someone to locate you.

4) You should immediately cease communication with people who seem obsessed with acquiring personal information about you.

5) Be aware when talking to any potential date of the following danger signs: getting angry for no apparent reason; possessiveness; elusiveness in answering direct questions; inconsistencies in information about themselves; disrespectful remarks; request for any financial information from you. These could all be potential red flags.

6) Take it slow before you agree to meet the other person. Have several conversations on the phone with the potential date so you can detect any of the above warning signs before you agree to meet face to face. If the other person tries to push you into a meeting too quickly, you might consider moving on.

7) Don't give your home phone number at first. When calling the person either call from a pay phone away from your neighborhood or block your number when calling.

8) When agreeing to meet for the first time, agree to meet in a public place with plenty of people around. Never invite a stranger into your home or to pick you up from your home. Always tell a friend or family member of your first meeting plans. You may also ask someone to call you while you’re on your first meeting/date to check up on you.

9) Limit the amount of alcohol you have on your first face-to-face meeting. Alcohol can lower your inhibitions and alter your judgment. In addition, no matter what you’re drinking, don’t ever leave your drink unattended during the date.

10) Trust your instincts. If something doesn’t feel right about the person or situation, end the communication or date immediately. You owe no one an explanation when it concerns your safety.

You may think all the above precautions take all the fun out of online dating. However, there’s nothing fun about getting tangled up with a dangerous person. Following basic safety precautions just helps insure that the wonderful person you’re seeking is the wonderful person you end up with.

By Shari Hearn

Dating Older Men - Worst Problems and Issues of Dating Older Men

2009-04-15T17:42:00.000-07:00

Women usually prefer to date with older men and the reason is that women like mature men. Women get mature in lesser age than the men do. That is why they want to have an older man who can match their maturity level.

There is no problem with dating the older men but there are certain points that you should keep in mind while dating older men. If you do not like criticism then you have to make sure that your acquaintances do not come to know about such a relationship. Your family and friends might criticize you for having relationships with such a man but you shouldn't look for their suggestions. And even if they come to know about it, do listen to them but do what you like, after all it is your own life and you are independent to do what you want. So you should not allow these suggestions and commands to interfere with your personal relationships

If the older man you are dating with has the children, it might be problematic for you. And if his children are of the same age as yours, it will be more problematic. As all of you are adult and mature people, you need to talk together in a good atmosphere in a pleasant and open way, and there should not be any rudeness.

The best thing you can learn about dating older men is how to compromise. If you are able to compromise, then this is probably the best thing for maintaining strong relationship. May be there are many things that you share in common but you have to make certain changes in your lifestyle. You have to compromise on certain things and when you are together, you have to deal with him according to his temperament. It is quiet possible that he doesn't have energy after the all day hectic routine and tough schedule and may be you feel bore when he takes you somewhere for outing. Now you have to compromise on these things and you can turn to places where you would like to spend the time together and take him that way so that none of you feel bored in each other's company.

Although women usually feel attracted towards the older men but dating older men can sometimes be very difficult. You must keep in mind these simple tips while dating older men and you will have a great date waiting for you.

By Rachel A Thomas

How to Begin Online Dating

2009-04-15T17:39:00.001-07:00

If you are thinking about getting into online dating you might find the whole thing a bit confusing. There is a great deal of difference between online dating and dating in the real world. The most important thing is that the interactions between the two people primarily occur on the Internet. But then you knew that part didn't you?

There are a lot of services available for people who are interested in meeting others for social reasons. Even if you are just looking to make some new friends you can take advantage of these services. Most people who use these online dating services are looking for someone to go on dates with or a long-term relationship.

It's really a great way to meet new people. With the Internet you are exposed to a group of people that can come from anywhere in the world. The current rate of people enjoying these sites is one out of every five Americans use or participates in an online dating service. That's a lot of people. Age is no barrier to the use of online services. You will find people of all ages when you get involved.

Younger people naturally choose this method to meet new people. It is completely understandable that the younger generation would turn to the Internet for their dating needs. They grew up online and are very comfortable using the services. It allows a great deal of anonymity and that is very appealing to many people.

With online dating you can take your time before you choose to meet in person. It is true that you really can't see a person's true nature through email and instant messaging, but you can get a pretty good idea. You can choose to never meet people that you feel uncomfortable with. Simply end the communication and it is over.

Some services require people to sign up and become members. There is generally a fee involved with these services. There may also be a set of standards that must be met before you are allowed to join. Once you are involved you can rest assured that the other member who are participating have also met the same standards that you did.

Usually you will be matched with other participants that meet your requirements. You are given the option to contact the other member. It is completely up to the subscriber to initiate the contact and keep it up if they desire. The service will not help you get a date they will only provide you with likely matches.

This is a whole new world of dating and it might be a fun way for you to meet a whole new group of people. If you have been needing to get out and meet some new people this might be the perfect opportunity for you.

By John D Love

How to Get a Pretty Girl

2009-04-10T16:50:00.000-07:00

You want to have a pretty girlfriend. You want other guys to look at you and your girl when you are out together and get jealous of you. You want to stare into the eyes of a pretty girl and see her staring back at you!

CAN YOU REALLY ATTRACT A PRETTY GIRL?

The answer should be a resounding, YES! Many guys do attract pretty girls and many of these guys are not the best looking or the riches or whatever else you might think you have to be in order to attract this kind of girl. In fact, sometimes a pretty girl is even easier to attract.

Why?

Because they are used to being hit on in the same way. They are used to hearing the same lines and dealing with same types of guys over and over and over. Just like anyone else, pretty girls are going to be attracted to a person who stands out. To a guy who goes outside the box and does his own thing.

Your individuality is what will separate you from the many generic kinds of guys out there. Using your personality and letting her see a confident side of you will instantly make you more and more attractive. Couple that with a care free, not ashamed to be yourself attitude and you WILL stand out.

Attracting a pretty girl is not the hardest thing to do. Learn how to use the laws of attraction and build your confidence and you soon may be staring in the eyes of a pretty girl who is staring right back at YOU!

By Bryan Appleton

Ten Great Holiday Dates For Singles

2009-04-10T16:44:00.000-07:00

Dating during the holiday season can be a special treat. Of course, in order to fully experience this you may need to re-order some priorities and make time for yourself and your own personal needs. Don’t give into the temptation to put your social life on hold until after the New Year. Manage those work projects and family demands in a way that leaves you open to try some of the romantic and fun-filled activities that are available at this time of year.

The following 10 date ideas should help put you in the mood and may even inspire you to come up with a few on your own.

1.Have a “progressive” dinner together. Go to one place for your appetizer, another (romantic and intimate) place for your dinner; and then have dessert and coffee (nightcap), in a quiet spot with a beautiful view of holiday lights or other holiday views. Even better, go by limo, so you have all your time to focus on each other and don’t have to worry about all the driving.

2. Take a holiday tour of historic homes in your area. Many areas of the country have these. Often they are done in the evening by candlelight. Afterwards, you can go for a walk and view the surrounding neighborhood lights and decorations. Finish with coffee in a quiet bistro.

3. Get dressed up and attend a holiday concert or play. You can spend a lot or very little on this kind of date, depending where you go for the entertainment. A nice little before or after meal fills out the evening.

4. Go and get hot chocolate with your date; then go look at Christmas lights or displays available in your area. Many places have dazzling displays that light up the night.

5. Go ice skating together. Find a nice place, not too crowded. This brings out the playful side and encourages a lot of interaction with each other. Hold hands, show off, race- be kids again!

6. Attend a religious service together. This could be accomplished by going to a place of worship that one (or both) of you belong to; or you could go to a non-denominational service. An evening service, followed by a supper in an intimate restaurant could fill you with a sense of well-being and peacefulness.

7. Throw a small holiday get-together with a few other couples (or friends). Plan an activity such as trimming the tree or lighting the menorah. Be sure to serve festive food and drink. A bonus would be to have a secret Santa gift exchange. This would be where each person brings a gift ($10.00 or less). Everyone picks a number. Person with number one begins with first selection. Go through all the numbers and open each gift in front of the group. Exchanging is fine and provides some extra fun. Lots of laughs and very interactive.

8. Choose your or his/her place, stay home, rent old holiday classics, light the fire and cook a simple but festive meal together. Play holiday music while you cook. Then watch (a few if you like) holiday favorites together. Or, you can bake Christmas cookies or other holiday treats together while listening to music and enjoying the fire.

9. Work at a soup kitchen one day (meal) together. Sharing the experience of giving is a wonderful way to get to know someone and deepen a relationship. It is also a great way to get into the true holiday spirit. After the clean up, go for a walk followed by coffee or a nightcap.

10. Go to a planetarium (if one is nearby). Enjoy the spectacular winter sky together. There is usually a guided “show” that you can experience as you sit closely, (perhaps hand in hand?). Try to pick out constellations together as you walk back to your car. It is always nice to have an intimate meal afterwards.

See if you can add some ideas of your own to this list. Then put aside several evenings over the next few weeks and awaken those feelings of peace, joy and goodwill for others.

Happy Holidays!

By Toni Coleman

Top Five Dating Tips For Guys

2009-04-09T21:08:00.000-07:00

There are some guys who find dating a little bit difficult. Sometimes they can surpass a first date yet they can't convince a girl to go on a second date. This could really be a problem and if you're one of those, here are some dating tips for guys to help you pull off a second date.

Tip #1: Smell good and look good.

Admit it guys, if you're out with your guy friends and you haven't shaved for a couple of days, that won't really matter much. However, it's quite different if you're out with a woman. If you appear on your date with your beard covering your entire face as if it's easy to plant root crops right then and there, and you didn't even bother to give yourself a full pledged shower, you will never get a second date. Of course, if you want to impress your date, you should look good and smell good on your first meet up. You have to take care of your hygiene. Before you step out of your house, make sure that you take a shower, shave your beard and mustache, and put a dab of men's cologne enough to make you smell good the entire day. Women are easily turned on with men who are looks great and smells great even if you're a few meters away from her.

Tip #2: Dress to Impress

One of the dating tips for guys that you should remember is choosing what clothes to wear. Clothes do matter a lot and dressing up is not only for women in general. If you have an upcoming date, it does not mean that you have to buy a new shirt, a new pair of pants or a new shoe. It really doesn't matter if you'll suit yourself with your old clothes. The secret lies on your ability to mix and match whatever you have and walk through the door with a really good outfit. Make sure that what you're wearing is not dull and boring. Women likes it when men are conscious about what they wear, however, do not be overdressed as if you're going to attend a vanity fair. Know the proper dress code when going on a date and you'll never run out of a good set of clothes.

Tip #3: Never smoke unless she grabs a stick of cigar

If you are a full time smoker, it might be a good idea to quit smoking not unless your date smokes as much as you do. One way to impress women is showing them that your lungs are not candidates for respiratory diseases. Control your urge while you can, and when you see that she grabs a stick of cigar from her pocket, that's the best time to offer her a light and grab one for yourself as well. If she does not, then don't smoke until you get home.

Tip #4: Sports is not the best topic on a date

This topic is okay if you're out with your friends. There are a lot of women who gets bored with sports topic and you should respect that. Instead, ask her what are things that interest her and start a conversation from it.

Tip #5: Talk and Listen

The best way to fire up a date is to talk and listen. It's the only way for you to keep your date interested.

These are the top five dating tips for guys that you can follow. Getting a second date can be a little hard, but if you stick with these tips, you'll definitely have one.

By Bernice Eker